Hello all, this is my first post so hopefully I'm in the right area.
My mum is currently dying from stage 4 lung cancer and we're not expecting her to last much past the end of the year, which is of course devastating. She was diagnosed in June, so it's been quite a short journey to get here. She is cared for at home by my stepfather and I go down every couple of weeks to see her and give him a break where I can. I have never had a good relationship with him and as we get closer to mum probably dying, this is only getting worse. We had a party recently for all of mum's friends to see her and say goodbye to her and my stepfather is fuming with me because I wrote some words for the party about my mum and didn't (in his view) include enough about him. He's been really quite nasty to me over the last week and I know this is really upsetting my mum (a week later he is still ranting about it in front of her). He seems to take his frustrations and fears out on me in particular and is of a generation that wouldn't dream of speaking to someone or joining a support group for more healthy ways to cope. I have siblings, but it's particularly me who he seems to hate.
I feel like there isn't an outlet for me to deal with this at all at the moment, beyond limiting contact with him to essential comms about mum only. I just wondered if anyone has experienced anything like this with family and has any good ideas for coping strategies during this time. I think I am definitely going to need to look in to counselling once mum is gone but I'm not sure how helpful it would be to start that when we are probably only weeks away from her death.
Thanks so much xx
