My dying dads family won’t visit him before he passes

On the 31st October my dad was told that there wasn’t anymore the hospital could do to prolong his life . My dad was diagnosed 2 years ago with metastatic prostate cancer which had already spread to. His hip bone , spine and lymph nodes . After finding out that the radium treatment he was receiving has depleted his bone marrow and the. Cancer has now spread to his liver we were told he has weeks , if we are lucky months left . My heart is breaking and although my mums side of the family are very present my dad’s family have avoided him . I spoke to my aunt tonight who explained that she didn’t want to see him and end up remembering him this way and she believes that the others feel the same way. I am heart broken for my dad as he is the first one to run around after all of them and offer his support when they are in need . I’m angry and sick of hearing them say we are here if you need us when they clearly aren’t . Am I being unreasonable ? 

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  • Hi Dellie I am so sorry you are going through this with such selfish people I totally agree with everything Angie has wrote in fact she has wrote just  what i would I agree they need to know this is not for their benefit this is for your fathers he’s the one dying and wanting to see them each time they say you know where we are you need to answer no I do not not my father wishes to see you and you refuse to come I also agree if they do not make any attempt to see him they would not be welcome at the funeral at all .. when my dad was dying on icu on a life support machine none of my family went to see him  my mum said  she didn’t want to see him like that neither did I was in my 30s but no way would I put my feelings before his he had cared for me all my life even if he never opened his eyes again I knew he would know I was there I never left his side and he died with me holding his hand the older I get the angrier I feel about my mum leaving me there to care for him how selfish that was but I know I am at peace myself for being there I would never have left him alone.I hope you are ok please let us know if you get chance sending lots of love your way -Tina x

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  • Hi Dellie I am so sorry you are going through this with such selfish people I totally agree with everything Angie has wrote in fact she has wrote just  what i would I agree they need to know this is not for their benefit this is for your fathers he’s the one dying and wanting to see them each time they say you know where we are you need to answer no I do not not my father wishes to see you and you refuse to come I also agree if they do not make any attempt to see him they would not be welcome at the funeral at all .. when my dad was dying on icu on a life support machine none of my family went to see him  my mum said  she didn’t want to see him like that neither did I was in my 30s but no way would I put my feelings before his he had cared for me all my life even if he never opened his eyes again I knew he would know I was there I never left his side and he died with me holding his hand the older I get the angrier I feel about my mum leaving me there to care for him how selfish that was but I know I am at peace myself for being there I would never have left him alone.I hope you are ok please let us know if you get chance sending lots of love your way -Tina x

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