My husband just died two days ago of advanced GI cancer. He was being treated for a slow growing cancer in the lower right hand side of his jaw. He had surgery that was successful to remove the cancer and then it was said to have returned. He has further surgery to remove the ‘ Reuther cancer’ but this was found out to be non cancerous. Following this surgery he found he was going downhill instead of feeling better. He wasn’t eating and just shattered all the time. He went to the GP and the maximo clinic and the GP treated him by taking blood samples and telling us to self refer for speech and language therapy 

The clinic were concerned about his non eating but said it was connected with the psychological effects of the surgery and brought in a dietician and the surgeon said he was cancer free as far as they were concerned and just eat. My son asked if anything else could be going on. Clinic surgeon said not to do with the slow growing mouth cancer as far as they were concerned cancer free but could go back to GP 

afyrt several weeks of going further down hill GP eventually referred to hospital for admission

5 days later he is dead.

where do I get answers? We saw 6 different doctors on quick ward rounds in 4 days. He changed beds and wards 4 times and had no pain relief other than paracetemol until three days in. 

who can tell me what’s happened how did this all happen? Do they just say he’s dead now so that’s it. Where do I go to for someone to explain what has happened to me. I’ve been widowed in a few days when I thought my husband was cancer free. I’ve been supporting him all wrong not knowing what to do.