My dad was found collapsed and unresponsive 2 weeks ago and was thought to have had a stroke. He was left with left sided paralysis unable to open his eyes and was asleep , unconscious most of the time. 2 days ago he became more awake and could open his left eye. He is being fed by a tube and seemed much brighter. Still confused but was able to talk a bit, slurred and sometimes not making much sense. He had a MRI scan Sunday and they said it was a stroke but a large brain stem thalamus tumour and prognosis isn’t good.  
mots jeart breaking for is all and the big problem is we have no idea how long we have got and my dad is in Devon and my sister and I are in London. We are going up for 3/4 days at a time but also have children of our own and both nurses ourselves. I’m not at work but am feeling so bad/ leaving him then feel bad leaving my children also. We would love to bring him closer but we have no room in our homes and he won’t be eligible for care in London. Hog one is not suitable as it’s a rented 3 rd floor flat. 
jos sister is in Devon but she is 70’jerself and not in great health. He has visitors when we are not there but I just don’t know what to do. I want to be there all the time but I have my children to think about too.  
obviously if things get worse and he deteriorates I will be there but just feel so torn, sad and helpless. 
my dad is 75 and has other comorbidities also .