Mum is terminal

My mum was told the news 2 weeks ago that she is terminal.

I found out yesterday.

It was bowel, she had radio & chemo but it has spread to her lymphatic system, apparently it’s rare & not been seen & non-operable.

12 months without treatment & less than 5 years with treatment.

She is dying, i’m going to lose my mum & not to old age.

The consultant said ‘oh it’s nothing to worry about’ at first & now she is dying, going to lose my mum.

How do I support her? I’m terrified & i’m know she is to, I love her so much, it’s horrendous news.

My boyfriend & I are going to do a commitment ceremony so she can see me who I would look on my wedding day, just so she can see this.

My dad says everything he does is for ‘Moley’ that’s his name for her, this is crucifying but I want to support her best I can?

How do I process this? 

Feel selfish for being so upset & scared as I know my mum has been given the worst news imaginable.

What do I do? How do I help? 

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  • My mum basically had endometrial cancer in 2020 which she had surgery and all was well...roll on to march this year she had bad chest pain, doctors kept pushing her pillow to post. Her oncologist at a check up for her previous cancer brushed everything off. Took me multiple calls a day to secretaries etc as all refusing to see mum. After CT scan revealed it's in her liver, sternum etc. At the appointment before scan the consultant brushed it off saying if it has recurred it'll just be some chemo!! She's been told 18 months and it's so hard to believe it as right now she seems like her usual self but I can't stop thinking about life without her. She's just finished 6 rounds of chemo and now we wait for a scan to see how much it has shrunk, then it's scans every 3 months.

    How is your mum and what's her plan? X