Hi there ... 

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment....  it is so crule and overwhelming...  I'm so sorry, no one can tell you how long your dad has except those looking after him .. it does appear that it won't be too long ... and for him, hopefully not ... but as I've worked in care homes, all I can say is , sometimes those looking close to it, occasionally pull back ... some who look o.k can go quicker then expected ... just know your not alone .. many of us here have walked that path ...  

Just take the time he does have to carry on holding his hand .. and tell him what's in your heart .. they do say hearing is the last thing we loose ... I'm so sorry ... sending you a vertual hug.. x 

Hi Chriss, thank you so much for replying to me, I apprecaite it.  I hope it won't be too much longer for him as well, I feel so awful saying that - how can I wish that I hope my dad will pass soon?!  Thank you for those comforting words "just know you're not alone", that means so much, although heartbreaking that so mnay have walked this path.

I hold his hand and tell him how much I love him, I will continue to do that, thank you so much again x

One thing I didn't say .. we don't wish them to go ... never .. we just want them to stop suffering ... 

Chrissie x x 

Hi. Firstly I'm so sorry you are going through this with your dad.

I am going through this with me dad too. He is currently in hospital very poorly and we have been given an estimate of 3-6 months but after seeing him yesterday I feel it could be much sooner. He was just sleeping and quite confused.
 

i have been off work feeling mentally unstable and due back next week too. All my mind is on is my Dad and I am scared for my Mum and just do not want him to suffer.

I have 2 children and really am struggling day by day. 
 

you really are not alone in this and I can empathise with you so much. 

I don't want my dad to suffer and be in no pain. I love him so much it physically hurts. 
 

sending you all the love and hugs xxx

L

Hi L

Thank you for your message and I'm so sorry you're going through this as well - you're not alone and I'm here for you to talk to. I completley empathise with you not wanting your dad to suffer, I don't mine to either of course, but the alternative is too painful to think about. 
Today after seeing dad he didn't speak or open his eyes at all, the nurses said he'd been like that all day. His mum and brother are coming from Ireland on Wednesday to visit him and I wonder if he's waiting for that and then he'll feel ready to pass?

I hope that your children are bringing you some joy? Today we took my baby and my mum to the farm before going to see dad, it was nice to think about something else for a while. 
 

Sending you love xx

I remember in my dads final moments saying in my head 'go to sleep now dad'. Like you, I loved him with all my heart and selfishly wanted him here, but in those moments I understood finally how someone so poorly could say they didn't want to be here anymore. I remember the anxiety and grief before he passed away being unbareable, the not knowing how and when. When it finally happened it was almost a relief just knowing he was at peace. He just slept more and more in the final weeks/days and I think it's a blessing knowing they aren't really aware what's happening, it's actually worse for the ones watching.
I'm so sorry you are going through this, it's so so unfair. 
I went on to have my first baby 2 weeks after and continue the big white wedding I promised my dad 5 months after, all with a blury head and heart, but I promise you everything will be ok xxx

Thanks so much for your message. My dad passed away on Tuesday morning

I can't even begin to imagine how you coped in those newborn days and then your wedding with a broken heart! You're some woman for sure.

Thank you for saying everything will be ok, I needed that. Gosh I've never known pain like it xxx

Oh I'm so sorry  

I know exactly how you feel, it is the most heartbreaking unbareable pain that not a single person can understand unless they have been through it themselves. 

They say time is a healer, I hate that saying and I hated people saying it to me at the time, but I absolutely promise you that day by day you will get stronger just take each hour at a time in the early days and a time will come when you can think and talk about your dad without the tears, and that's coming from someone that didn't want to be here without him when it happened, promise xxx 

Your message made me cry. You've given me hope that I will be ok thank you so much. I can't put into words how much your message has helped me, thank you so much. I type this through tears in Lidl car park after doing the food shop thank you a thousand times over xxxxx