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Dying father doesn’t want me to visit.

Ada000
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Says that I have my own life to live and to take care of myself (I'm pregnant and moving house next week). 
 

im not an estranged family member, so why is he reading me like one.

he says he's not going anywhere, but he has Grade 4 glioblastoma and he's turning 69 in two weeks. He was diagnosed this past April.

i just want to go home and visit him for his birthday..... visit him while he is still him, you know..... 

  • Hello Ada000,

    I'm sorry to hear about your situation and how this is making you feel. Your dad may be feeling all sorts of emotions right now so it might help to talk to other members of the family or friends you can trust. There is some information supporting a loved one with cancer here, which might be useful, and I hope there is a way forward for you and your family during this difficult time.

    Best wishes,

    Moderator Anastasia

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    My husband has the same as your dad and he once told me while everyone is carrying on as normal he didn't have to face that he was not well and his life was changing. He doesn't want you to worry which I know is hard. 

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    Hello. I am in the exact same position, my dad has the same diagnosis and does not have long left... until now he has let me visit but has no said no more visits. He is 65. He is my whole world, he is confused and I dont even know if this is him or the disease wanting this. I can't not see him anymore, it will destroy me. What do I do?? 

    I understand he is trying to protect me but this is not what I want 

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