My dads not getting treatment

Just looking for a bit of support my dad got diagnosed with lung and brain tumours in May. The doctors said that he was young enough and he deserved treatment which he was so happy about. He had an appointment for Wednesday to find out his treatment plan and get going unfortunately he got admitted into hospital on Saturday after getting a bad chest infection so they done some scans and said they wanted to transfer him to another hospital for brain surgery which he was happy to do anything to remove the tumour but today the doctor came to his bed side and said he was no longer being transferred and he wasn't getting brain surgery or chemotherapy. He was so gutted he cried I've never saw him cry it was heartbreaking doctors said he's to go home and we've to make him as comfortable as possible I just feel we've had so much false hope. The family's emotions have been up and down and now I feel there's no hope does anyone have any advice please I'm so worried and the thought of watching him deteriorate is killing me inside. Michelle 

  • Sorry to hear this my mum passed away with lung cancer that has spread to her brain 2 years ago. She was only 63.

    all can advise is say everything you want to say to him and let him know you love him. Don't hold back on anything that you will regret not saying. Spend plenty of time with him too! 
    if he's still able, go on trips out and make few more memories together x 

  • So sorry to hear about your Dad ,

    Cancer is so horrendous and such a rollar cosater of emotions ! do you mind me asking what the reason was the hospitial said they can not give your Dad treatment not even radiotherapy ? 

    Palliative care can give people real quality of life makesure you get the local pall care services involved and take help and support when you can ! 

    People can have quality of life for a time with good palliative care .

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Hi mich44

    He is being refused treatment because the tumours have grown so quickly they were large when he discovered them in May but now they are huge and they just don't think it will help him I'm gutted I've had really bad anxiety about it the past few days can't stop thinking about it it's just not fair for anyone to lose a loved one in this way it's heartbreaking the pain and suffering