A quick backstory, it's mum and me here in England for the last 12 years. I am the youngest and 27. My brothers and dad live back home in Germany. She got diagnosed in early April with metastatic cancer in breast, liver, lungs and in bones around the spine. Since then she's been bed bound, can't sit up and not mobile, lost a lot of weight, not been able to eat full meals and detoriating quickly. Due to state and condition she was told she's too weak for treatment and she was admitted into a nursing home for palliative care. We were told maybe 6 months life expectancies. Throughout this process the doctors advised us she's not fit to travel back to Germany and me aware why, which I communicated back to my family. 

As the days are approaching, one of my brother is becoming more aggressive with the idea of taking her over, which I am totally against at. I've been here with her from the beginning of this process, hospital visits and appointments etc and know tha ins and out. With the anticipative grieving, I feel his personality has gotten nasty and now taking it out on me. Saying how can I allow her to be put into a nursing home and life like that when all I have done is tried to make it as comfortable as possible for her. 

Now promising her, they will do whatever it takes to bring her over regardless of the consequences, although doctors warned against it. I am worried as her days are approaching closer and closer, eventually they're going to hate me for something that isn't in my control. 
 

In a way, I am worried what family like will be like after when my mum isn't with me anymore and I have family members like him to deal with.