End of life or is she getting better??

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I'm just looking for a little advice, family member went into hospital 5 weeks ago we were told they were at end of life and she seemed to not have long left however she bounced back and wanted to come home so we arranged this and got care in place. She seemed quite stable for a couple of weeks then a week ago deteriorated again, we're at the stage she has a catheter, isn't mobile at all, on syringe driver, very confused, hallucinating. We prepared for her to have hours then midweek she picked up again. Talking more, made peace with dying, eating a little, drinking slightly more, saying goodbye to people. She now believes she's getting better and has said she isn't dying. We're all so confused. Is this a rally or is it lasting too long? She's sleeping for most of the day but coming round and chatting although can be confused and speech is quiet. Eating soup in small quantities but mouth very dry and drinking a reasonable amount.

 

We're all doing what we can as she wants to remain at home but we just don't know what to expect now. Thanks if you can offer any advice in similar situation

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  • We were called to the hospital several times saying he was end of life, and my dad would be back and chatty according to my mum and sister ( I live along way from home so I couldn't necessarily make it in time)

    he had been sleeping a lot and this became more and more common as he came closer to the end 

    I did finally get to see him the Friday before he died as we were called again for end of life, when I got there he had picked up again so I got to talk to him for the last time, he wanted to talk about past times, when he was a boy, people he knew way back, he ate his dinner ( I fed him) that was the last time he picked up and he died the following Saturday 

    I don't want to be all doom and gloom but have the hospital removed all treatment and just keeping any pain under control? 
    I hope your family member bounces right back up there, but if that's not the way she's going don't worry she will go very peacefully, I have no fear of death now

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  • We were called to the hospital several times saying he was end of life, and my dad would be back and chatty according to my mum and sister ( I live along way from home so I couldn't necessarily make it in time)

    he had been sleeping a lot and this became more and more common as he came closer to the end 

    I did finally get to see him the Friday before he died as we were called again for end of life, when I got there he had picked up again so I got to talk to him for the last time, he wanted to talk about past times, when he was a boy, people he knew way back, he ate his dinner ( I fed him) that was the last time he picked up and he died the following Saturday 

    I don't want to be all doom and gloom but have the hospital removed all treatment and just keeping any pain under control? 
    I hope your family member bounces right back up there, but if that's not the way she's going don't worry she will go very peacefully, I have no fear of death now

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