I totally get you. My mum is dying. At the moment she's having treatment, but long term the outcome isn't good. They can only buy her more time, but it comes at a price. She's uffering badly from the chemo, and we've had to have some incredibly difficult conversations recently. She's preparing me for when she's gone, going through paperwork, telling me her wishes etc. My mum has never asked how long, but I have, and although I haven't been given a timescale, I have been told that cure isn't possible. Today my mum has told me if there's no cure, then she doesn't want to go through the hell of treatment for nothing. If she's going to die, she'd rather it was sooner than prolonged. I had to tell her there is no cure. That was incredibly hard. Going through funerl wishes etc is so painful for us both. There's only me,no one else, so that makes it harder that there's no one to share the load. I know these conversations need to be had, and I know she feels better for letting me know her wishes. Not better physically but mentally. I try to make sure all conversations are about her and what she wants and feels. I'll sort out my own grief later.

I can't offer advice on how to have these conversations, but the time will come when it is right to have them, and you are not alone in feeling the way you do x

I totally get you. My mum is dying. At the moment she's having treatment, but long term the outcome isn't good. They can only buy her more time, but it comes at a price. She's uffering badly from the chemo, and we've had to have some incredibly difficult conversations recently. She's preparing me for when she's gone, going through paperwork, telling me her wishes etc. My mum has never asked how long, but I have, and although I haven't been given a timescale, I have been told that cure isn't possible. Today my mum has told me if there's no cure, then she doesn't want to go through the hell of treatment for nothing. If she's going to die, she'd rather it was sooner than prolonged. I had to tell her there is no cure. That was incredibly hard. Going through funerl wishes etc is so painful for us both. There's only me,no one else, so that makes it harder that there's no one to share the load. I know these conversations need to be had, and I know she feels better for letting me know her wishes. Not better physically but mentally. I try to make sure all conversations are about her and what she wants and feels. I'll sort out my own grief later.

I can't offer advice on how to have these conversations, but the time will come when it is right to have them, and you are not alone in feeling the way you do x