How can I support my mum? Feel so useless

Hi all

My mum is now at a stage where conversations have happened and she is coming to terms with having stage 4 cancer and being in a hospice. I dont know if she will come home as my dad seems to think shes better off there although i disagree. I feel she should be home and we can look after her.

She keeps crying constantly..i was with her for 6 hours today and she kept bursting into tears sayin she feels devastated and sad. I dont knoe what to do. I dont know what to say, i dont know how to comfort her. I kiss her and hold her hand and listen to her but i cant make it better  i dont know what to do i feel useless

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  • My mum  wants to be in a hospice when the time comes that she can no longer be at home, and I'm totally happy with that. Although I would happily care for her at home, if an emergency happened she's have to wait for an ambulance etc, and would then go to hospital. She absolutely does not want to die in hospital. At least in a hospice specialist acre and pain relief are at hand 24/7 x

     

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  • My mum  wants to be in a hospice when the time comes that she can no longer be at home, and I'm totally happy with that. Although I would happily care for her at home, if an emergency happened she's have to wait for an ambulance etc, and would then go to hospital. She absolutely does not want to die in hospital. At least in a hospice specialist acre and pain relief are at hand 24/7 x

     

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