Hello Hannah, my husband had stage 4 cancer and wanted to die at home, he was only home for six days and died.  It was extremely traumatic, we had very little help, two half hour carers 7am and 8pm and the rest was up to me, it is not an easy thing to do, getting to the toilet, changing beds, washing and turning them to stop bed sores and I did most of this totally alone, if I needed help I had to call the district nurses and leave him in a mess until they arrived.  I have hardly been near the bedroom where he died as it's an awful memory, I wish he had been in a hospice and that our last few days together were more calm and that I wasn't exhausted after being up with him all night.  Maybe this is how your Dad feels and I'm totally with him as to live in the home where your partner has died is not easy.  Sending my kind regards to you and your family as I fully understood how torn you feel.  Carol x

Hello Hannah, my husband had stage 4 cancer and wanted to die at home, he was only home for six days and died.  It was extremely traumatic, we had very little help, two half hour carers 7am and 8pm and the rest was up to me, it is not an easy thing to do, getting to the toilet, changing beds, washing and turning them to stop bed sores and I did most of this totally alone, if I needed help I had to call the district nurses and leave him in a mess until they arrived.  I have hardly been near the bedroom where he died as it's an awful memory, I wish he had been in a hospice and that our last few days together were more calm and that I wasn't exhausted after being up with him all night.  Maybe this is how your Dad feels and I'm totally with him as to live in the home where your partner has died is not easy.  Sending my kind regards to you and your family as I fully understood how torn you feel.  Carol x