Husband been told his bowel obstruction is cancer

Hi, my husband is a fit healthy 33 year old, 4 weeks ago he developed severe abdominal pain and sickness. We have spoken to numerous GPs at our surgery  numerous 111 calls, a trip to A&E and even a day in hospital to 'fix' the 'constipation'. Well after eventually throwing up feaces  and another ambulance visit we finally got taken seriously and yesterday my husband was told he has a blockage in his bowel that is cancer. They have removed this and given him what we hope is a temporary stoma. This has all been such a shock and new to me he is in ICU now as the op was yesterday. I just would like some advise on what I can expect next  with Covid I cant visit him which means I can't speak to the health professionals face to face, I feel lost and scared and out of my depth  not to mention the anger at the fight I have had with the NHS for 4 weeks. Over £70 spent on prescriptions to 'treat' his constipation. 

 

Anyway sorry for the long post I hope someone has experienced the start of our new cancer journey, any advise and support for me to help him mentally and physically will be very much appreciated. I know its early days, and we don't yet know the extent of the damage. 

  • Hello Kerry,

                     what a sledgehammer blow you have had to face, but l can see why the diagnosis was protracted since your fit healthy 33 year old husband does not fit into the normal range of patients presenting with this problem.With Covid on top putting telephone consultations in front of face to face meetings stretching timeframes out ,its not been ideal,My diagnosis was easier because l was passing stale blood.Thankfully they have now removed the tumour and can focus their incredible expertise in getting him better.

                              As you say its early days on a long journey,and my best advice is to talk to macmillan ounsellors and contact those at your nearest Maggies centre, for knowledge and mental support for yourself as well, remember there are at least two sufferers in your situation.l would also advise you to start with a slow reasoned objective view rather than a rush tear everything today frame of mind,as this will be more help in seeing you through.

                                                                    Meanwhile try to not stress too much, he is in the very best place currently and despite of your initial problems,is in very good competent hands.Remember,eat,sleep and find moments to relax,

                                        best wishes, David

     

  • Wow, amazing words, thank you so much i am struggling to be strong for outr two girls but I know he is strong and we can get through this. And I need to be strong for him! 

     

    Your advise is something that will keep going through my head, and I will 100% give it a go. 

    Thank you x