Hi Dave. I am so sorry to hear of your loss and it is understandable to feel a range of disabling emotions including fear. My mother in law lost her husband to Covid. She woke up on the sofa after a nap to find him standing in front of her but it unnerved her - perhaps because she doesn't believe in any kind of afterlife. At the moment of his passing one of our lights blew in the house and it is surprisingly common to receive visits from loved ones who have passed. An elderly lady I was good friends with once saw her husband's face morph out of the fireplace. It was so bizarre she only told me and one other person but he was smiling and looked at peace so although it gave her a jolt she took comfort from it. You know that your wife would certainly not mean you any harm so I think it's a more of a case of some primal fear of some kind? Could a relative or friend stay with you in your own home? The reason I say this is because fears tend to grow if not faced and you know logically there is nothing to fear so baby steps to nip it in the bud and acclimatise could save issues further on. You may like to sleep on the sofa or in another room? It took a long time for a lady I know to sleep in the marital bed. She also had to have the radio on to provide a sense of company. Sometimes we are also afraid because we fear a deceased loved one will be cross with us? It may sound silly but you could have a "conversation" with your wife and ask her not to frighten you? Xx

Hi Dave. I am so sorry to hear of your loss and it is understandable to feel a range of disabling emotions including fear. My mother in law lost her husband to Covid. She woke up on the sofa after a nap to find him standing in front of her but it unnerved her - perhaps because she doesn't believe in any kind of afterlife. At the moment of his passing one of our lights blew in the house and it is surprisingly common to receive visits from loved ones who have passed. An elderly lady I was good friends with once saw her husband's face morph out of the fireplace. It was so bizarre she only told me and one other person but he was smiling and looked at peace so although it gave her a jolt she took comfort from it. You know that your wife would certainly not mean you any harm so I think it's a more of a case of some primal fear of some kind? Could a relative or friend stay with you in your own home? The reason I say this is because fears tend to grow if not faced and you know logically there is nothing to fear so baby steps to nip it in the bud and acclimatise could save issues further on. You may like to sleep on the sofa or in another room? It took a long time for a lady I know to sleep in the marital bed. She also had to have the radio on to provide a sense of company. Sometimes we are also afraid because we fear a deceased loved one will be cross with us? It may sound silly but you could have a "conversation" with your wife and ask her not to frighten you? Xx