Hello Angelah1949, 

Welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry for your loss - it must have been so traumatic for you that your husband died after only three weeks and to have found out that he was diagnosed with mesothelioma. How devastating it must have been for you to not have been allowed to visit him until the day before he died because of covid. My heart goes out to you and your two daughters during this difficult time. 

I can completely understand that knowing that he had this type of cancer and the fact that it is linked to asbestos exposure at work will leave you with so many unanswered questions and with that feeling that it is hard for you to move on. I hope that you can manage to find some of these difficult answers. Our page on coping with grief may also be of interest to you as it will highlight the different phases of the grieving process and the fact that grief is a very personal thing and that often you are left with all these unanswered questions and all these complex feelings. Many of our members will have been through such a traumatic experience and have also lost a husband or wife to cancer and I hope they will be along shortly to share their stories with you. 

We're thinking of you, your daughters and your family and wanted you to know that you are not alone and that you can come and offload on this forum at any time.  

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi,

Sorry to hear about your husband,,,I can totally sympathise with you after having lost my wife to cancer in May 2021 to bile duct cancer.

We met at 16 and was married for 30 yrs,,,she got diagnosed and died within 5bweeks to this monsteroues bile duct cancer.

Good luck to us both.

Thank you for messaging me your so right aswell. I have so many questions and can't get any answers I need. The grief is so hard for us all alone but the actual illness is messing with my head.

Don't think will ever know and will not get any closure unless we do

Angela

Hello I'm so sorry for your loss and its so hard you will feel so helpless. Everybody grieves different and you have to go on your own journey but some people can help by listening to you. Yes Good luck to us both and home your pain and mine dulls through time xx