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Why am I ignoring everyone?

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My lovely man died in June from leiomyosarcoma and I still feel so broken. I feel like I'm having to just 'carry on' with everything and I feel burnt out. I don't know why I'm doing this but I'm just ignoring everyone. I can't stop myself I don't reply to texts for days and I feel like everything is such a blur. I'm trying not to ignore people but I'm guessing it's some sort of coping mechanism. Has anyone else felt like this after losing a loved one?

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    I lost my husband November 2020 with stage 4 lung cancer and I basically didn’t want to. talk to anybody but over the  last 5weeks I have pushed my self  to talk to people buts it’s so hard  it takes time my husbands memory next month and I’m dreading it but take care of yourself you will do everything in your own time annie x

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    I lost my husband 18 months ago from oesophageal cancer, i was 'lucky' it happened during lockdown as i couldn't bear to make what seemed like idle, trivial conversation when i was in so much pain; didn't want people 'popping round' and lucky for me noone could! The enormity of our loss still hits me, but i am able to push it aside mostly now when around others to at least appear normal and hold a conversation.  Take as much time and space as you need, it's the one time you have an excuse to be rude and not talk or text people back when you normally would. There's no 'normal' for us anymore, our lives has changed drastically and others very rarely get that

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    I lost my hubby 23rd October 2021 he fought so hard tried any trial he could, 2years and 6 months from that horrific day when he was given the advanced kidney cancer, and pallative care only.

    I feel lost and all I want to do is sleep, or just stay under the duvet, cant see the point of doing anything

    Children bought a 7 week old puppy for me, wasnt best pleased but he does get me out of bed in the morning, and makes me face another day without hubby it hurts so much!!!!

    I dread the house phone ringing, I too am ignoring texts, my brain cant cope with anything and I really dont want to go on without him

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