Hi 

I'm so sorry  it's such early days and I believe that time is a healer. 

my mum is exactly as you've described- my best friend (more like sisters) she has been fighting for 2 years but has been given news this week that there is nothing more they can do for her and she only has weeks left. I have 3 young children and I am so scared of what's to come. 
I can't go on without her, we speak every day and there's things she knows about me that no one else does  

sending love to you at this hard time

i hope you find peace in the future and it gets easier

xxx

Hi Han,

Welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear of your mum's prognosis. This is such a hard time for you, but somehow or other, you will find the strength to see it through. Try not to think of what's to come just now. Focus on the present. Speak to your mum while you can and, don't leave anything left unsaid.Try to ensure that she is as comfortable as possible.

How is she dealing with her prognosis? This can sometimes be difficult and, she will need as much support as you can give her. Try to make as many memories as you can, as this is what will get you all by in the future. Are the children old enough to realise what is happening?

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

It all feels very surreal - for mum too! 
she's still feeling alright- and can't imagine what's to come

mum and dad are having family and friends over for short visits but emotionally they are both very up and down

we have discussed what mum wants etc and I keep telling her I love her so much but I'm so scared 

I am a nurse too which is hard- because I can imagine too much. Trying really hard not to and focus on the here and now like you suggested 

thank you xxx 

Hi Han,

I am glad to hear that your mum is still feeling ok. Most of us are afraid of what's to come, so try to talk things through with her if she wants to. If not leave well alone, but make sure that you say all that you want to her now and leave nothing left unsaid. 

It will be particularly difficult for you as a nurse. It is one thing nursing strangers, but a totally different situation when it comes to your mum. Just be there for her and give her as much support as you can.It sounds as if you are a close family and i am glad that you have managed to discuss what she wants. Keep letting her know how much you love her.

I know that it's a difficult road, but somehow or other, you will find the strength to see this through.

Thinking of you and your family.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Han,

I am glad to hear that your mum is still feeling ok. Most of us are afraid of what's to come, so try to talk things through with her if she wants to. If not leave well alone, but make sure that you say all that you want to her now and leave nothing left unsaid. 

It will be particularly difficult for you as a nurse. It is one thing nursing strangers, but a totally different situation when it comes to your mum. Just be there for her and give her as much support as you can.It sounds as if you are a close family and i am glad that you have managed to discuss what she wants. Keep letting her know how much you love her.

I know that it's a difficult road, but somehow or other, you will find the strength to see this through.

Thinking of you and your family.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx