Hi 

I'm so sorry  it's such early days and I believe that time is a healer. 

my mum is exactly as you've described- my best friend (more like sisters) she has been fighting for 2 years but has been given news this week that there is nothing more they can do for her and she only has weeks left. I have 3 young children and I am so scared of what's to come. 
I can't go on without her, we speak every day and there's things she knows about me that no one else does  

sending love to you at this hard time

i hope you find peace in the future and it gets easier

xxx

Hi Anon,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear of the recent loss of your mum, and offer my sincere sumpathy. It is still early days, but try to think of how your mum would want you to react to her passing. Would she have wanted you to feel so bereft and rudderless in life? I lost my mum many years ago now. The first thing I did was to find a nice photo of her, which I placed in a prominent place. I know that this may sound daft, but at first I spoke to her picture regularly. Now, after 24 years, i do so less frequently, but I still miss her every single day in life.

Your mum will still be with you on your wedding day, as she will on other special occasions, as you will always hold her in your heart. I know that this is not what you envisaged, but many of our dreams get thwarted along life's way. It is hard at first to get rid of those final memories, but try to dwell on the happier times.

Life goes on and, you will eventually come to accept her passing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,
Jolamine xx

Hi Han,

Welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear of your mum's prognosis. This is such a hard time for you, but somehow or other, you will find the strength to see it through. Try not to think of what's to come just now. Focus on the present. Speak to your mum while you can and, don't leave anything left unsaid.Try to ensure that she is as comfortable as possible.

How is she dealing with her prognosis? This can sometimes be difficult and, she will need as much support as you can give her. Try to make as many memories as you can, as this is what will get you all by in the future. Are the children old enough to realise what is happening?

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Han,

I am glad to hear that your mum is still feeling ok. Most of us are afraid of what's to come, so try to talk things through with her if she wants to. If not leave well alone, but make sure that you say all that you want to her now and leave nothing left unsaid. 

It will be particularly difficult for you as a nurse. It is one thing nursing strangers, but a totally different situation when it comes to your mum. Just be there for her and give her as much support as you can.It sounds as if you are a close family and i am glad that you have managed to discuss what she wants. Keep letting her know how much you love her.

I know that it's a difficult road, but somehow or other, you will find the strength to see this through.

Thinking of you and your family.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx