So sad

Hello

my husband has been battling cancer for 4 years. First prostate cancer which was successfully treated but. A few months later diagnosed with bowel cancer. Had an operation but 8 months later found out it had spread to his liver. They were going to operate but on the scan they did before op found it had spread to lung. After four different chemotherapy treatments it was said that treatment didn't seem to be working. Tried lonsurf but made him poorly and as our daughter was getting married in 7 weeks (postponed 3 times because of covid)decided to leave trying a lower dose of lonsurf til after the wedding. Wedding was 17th sept he was getting weaker leading up to it had to get a wheelchair and was on oxygen but fought to get there and with help from family and friends managed to get him through the day. When we got home on the Saturday had to phone the nurses who ordered a bed for him for downstairs and from then he quietly and peacefully slipped away over the next few days and passed away on Tuesday 21st sept. Finding it hard to process the conflicting emotions of those few days and still can't believe he's gone. I'm sure he knew what was happening and was determined to be there to see his daughter down the aisle even if he did have to be pushed in a wheelchair

  • My father passed  I had only known about the cancer around 4 weeks he was in hospital most of it the cancer caused his organs to fail and the breathing tubes were taken off I'm in a sense of despair my stomach aches and feels awful I don't feel well I saw it till the end watching his eyes roll open one last time it was as if dad already passed before all that only the odd breath was taken he had blood cancer 

  • So sorry for your loss. It truly is a cruel disease which robs so many people of their lives. I also felt I had lost him a couple of days before he died when he said he didn’t feel good and was very very tired. He told us he loved us before going to sleep and like you I found it so difficult being there but I was til the end xx

  • I lost my wife on 21st September too so know exactly what you mean about conflicting emotions and not believing are gone. Minutes currently seem to drift into hours with nothing really being achieved. 

  • So sorry you lost your wife on the 21st. I can identify with the time passing and nothing getting done. Made a start on some phone calls today but a bit stuck as haven't got death certificate. Hopefully get it tomorrow. It's overwhelming, so much to sort. Best wishes to you 

  • Yes it is overwhelming. Have started on some of phone calls today also. Best one was one of utility companies where i was changing Direct debit and getting Sue's name removed from account and at end of call they tried to sell me plumbing and drainage cover!! Had to explain was not something that was high on my list of current priorities. Best wishes to you also.

  • It’s 10month since I lost my wonderful husband of 43years and every day is different I cry everyday  so my heart goes out to you annie