My mum passed away

Hi, I’m new here but I’ve been reading through other posts. My mum was diagnosed with cancer in a lymph node in her throat January 2020, went through treatment and was given the all clean. The scar tissue from the radiotherapy had messed with her vocal cords so during a scan they found cancer in her throat again, lung, it quickly spread to another part of her chest, kidney and right eye socket. She was given the terminal diagnosis June 2021 and passed away on 19th August. It was only the two of us and now I feel lost and that I’ve lost my purpose as she was my whole life. I’m trying to remind myself that she is no longer in pain as towards the end she struggled to breathe and was completely bed ridden but sometime I think I can still hear her at home. I’m not really sure what I’m after by writing this post but thanks for reading. 
 

thank you everyone for their kind words. It was mums funeral yesterday and I feel more lost than ever. I miss her so much, I'm not sure how I am meant to go on with my life without her. She was my best friend and entire life. 

  • Hi SophSoph,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I just wanted to send a reply to offer condolences for your loss. I can only imagine how incredibly difficult this must be. We are always here for support if ever you need it, and I hope that the forum can provide an outlet for you to write things down and maybe reach out to others who understand.

    If ever you feel you're really struggling and want to speak to someone, have a look at the Cruse website - they have some good resources and a helpline.

    Take things a day - or an hour - at a time, and keep looking after yourself too. I'm sure you'll receive more replies here before too long.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • I’m so sorry try to stay strong I lost my husband 9month ago with lung cancer take every day at a time lv annie x

  • Dear Soph,

     

    i am so so sorry to hear about your mum. I know it's so painful at the beginning but I promise it does get easier. Make sure you have support from friends, nurses, councillors or anyone else if you are feeling lonely. I lost my parent too and I know how cruel and unfair it can feel. But I promise it will get easier as time goes on and that love between you doesn't just disappear. 
     

    jenny xxxx

  • Hi there 

    So sorry to hear of your loss of your mum. My mum passed away on the 21st of August from multiple myeloma. She was 56. I'm also new here, I came on for a reason I'm not fully sure of yet, I guess to prove to myself that I'm not alone in how I'm feeling right now. You aren't alone either. It hurts like hell right now trust me I know, but it definitely will get better. Support can come from anywhere, even here on this forum. I hope you're doing OK x