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I’m really struggling with the fact my dad died

Moonlight99
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I don't really know where to turn because no one I know has really gone through this yet. 
I lost my dad 2 months ago and it's absolutely destroying me. My dad played both mum and dad and I've lost 2 parents in one and im broken. We spoke and saw each other every single day without fail and im so lonely without him. My heart has broken and I have no one to turn to. Im not depressed but im extremely sad, lonely and my heart has truly shattered. I try and talk to friends and family but they don't understand and I keep getting "I'm always here" and "at least you got to say goodbye". It's like my world has stopped and everyone else's is still going and I feel like whenever I'm around people I instantly drag their mood down. I just genuinely don't know how to cope that he is no longer here

I would like to just thank everyone for their kind words and support, it is very appreciated. I haven't had much time recently to reply but I want you all to know I'm here for you ️  you'll never be alone in the world when people as nice as you lot are here x

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    Hi moonlight99 I'm a 19 year old male who lost his mom at a young age of 2 over the years iv never grieved I never even knew what a mother was until I was 9/10 years old but now that I'm older I really miss her a lot and I don't know how to talk about it to anyone cause nobody will understand but one thing that helps me is that I just rember that while my mother was on this planet living that she lived every moment that she could I rember that she was so happy. And from what I can tell you and your dad were very happy and he were both very close and I want you to rember that your dad was the person who when you were born he smiled, when you took your first steps he was so proud, when you made a big choice in life he believed in you, and all them days where you would go over to him and spend time with him you made him feel loved and happy that he has such an amazing child in his life it's though I get that but I promise you that he was very happy and would never want you to be like this and would want whats best for you and for you to go enjoy your life and live it to the fullest. I send my condolences to you and your family I hope you see some light in this post :))

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    Hi moonlight99 I'm a 19 year old male who lost his mom at a young age of 2 over the years iv never grieved I never even knew what a mother was until I was 9/10 years old but now that I'm older I really miss her a lot and I don't know how to talk about it to anyone cause nobody will understand but one thing that helps me is that I just rember that while my mother was on this planet living that she lived every moment that she could I rember that she was so happy. And from what I can tell you and your dad were very happy and he were both very close and I want you to rember that your dad was the person who when you were born he smiled, when you took your first steps he was so proud, when you made a big choice in life he believed in you, and all them days where you would go over to him and spend time with him you made him feel loved and happy that he has such an amazing child in his life it's though I get that but I promise you that he was very happy and would never want you to be like this and would want whats best for you and for you to go enjoy your life and live it to the fullest. I send my condolences to you and your family I hope you see some light in this post :))

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    Hey! I hope you are doing okay :)

    I am so sorry for your loss and as a mother myself I am here for you okay. 

     

    Thank you for your kind words about my dad, he was one of a kind. 

     

    If you ever need anyone to vent to, talk to because as you said not many people do actually understand im here for you, PLEASE do not hesitate to reach out

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