Dear [@lianne86xx]‍ 

I am very sorry to hear about your father - it is just an awfully sad thing to happen. Pancreatic cancer did the exact same thing to my mum in March, and she died in April. Therefore, I know exactly what you are going through - the initial shock/confusing/overwhelming sadness and the subsequent anger/guilt/remorse/overwhelming sadness etc.

The thing about pancreatic cancer is that is it a death sentence and unless it is caught very early, it almost always kills quickly. The doctors were very cagey with me about my mum's timeframe, and in general they themselves refrain from giving timelines because they either think people won't be able to handle the truth or simply because pancreatic cancer patients differ. But almost always terminal prognosis is either months rather than years or months rather than days - for my mum it was the latter. Nevertheless, I was shocked and deeply traumatised by how quickly she deteriorated after the diagnosis, and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

You are here because you need to find people who can relate to you and this place is a great comfort for people like us. By the way, I had bereavement counselling shortly after my mum died and found it to be very useful. Anytime you need to talk, we are here for you.

xxx

Dear [@lianne86xx]‍ 

I am very sorry to hear about your father - it is just an awfully sad thing to happen. Pancreatic cancer did the exact same thing to my mum in March, and she died in April. Therefore, I know exactly what you are going through - the initial shock/confusing/overwhelming sadness and the subsequent anger/guilt/remorse/overwhelming sadness etc.

The thing about pancreatic cancer is that is it a death sentence and unless it is caught very early, it almost always kills quickly. The doctors were very cagey with me about my mum's timeframe, and in general they themselves refrain from giving timelines because they either think people won't be able to handle the truth or simply because pancreatic cancer patients differ. But almost always terminal prognosis is either months rather than years or months rather than days - for my mum it was the latter. Nevertheless, I was shocked and deeply traumatised by how quickly she deteriorated after the diagnosis, and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

You are here because you need to find people who can relate to you and this place is a great comfort for people like us. By the way, I had bereavement counselling shortly after my mum died and found it to be very useful. Anytime you need to talk, we are here for you.

xxx