Hi there,

I lost my Mum too on the 8th June 2021.  On the 31st May (Bank Holiday Monday) she was taken to hospital by ambulance as whilst she was having lunch she had fainted.  Prior to that she had a lump under her armpit which she kept picking and made it bleed quite heavily and according to the ambulance crew when they arrived it had become infected.  She was adament that at 84 years of age she was not going to have any treatment.  In hospital they arranged a mammogram and they informed my mum that she had breast cancer.  My mum was in hospital for 9 days and during her stay she became dehydrated and her kidneys were not functioning properly.  She was on a drip to get fluids into her.  On the 7th June my Brother was with her in hospital as she was now unresponsive and had an oxygen tube in her nose.  I received a call at work around lunchtime informing me to get to the hospital as soon as I could.  Due to work I could not leave until 3pm and arrived at the hospital at 3.25pm.  In the meantime my Brother was still there and told my mum to "hold on" until I got there. When I arrived her saturation levels went up as prior to that her saturation levels were very low.  She knew I had arrived.  My Brother then left to be with my Dad.  I was with Mum and a lovely nurse.  All of a sudden the alarms went off on the machine.  The nurse told me that she had to find the ward sister.  The ward sister then arrived and put a face oxygen mask on her face.  All the time whilst this was going on I was holding my mum's hand, stroking her hair and talking to her.  All of a sudden I noticed her chest had stopped moving up and down.  My Mum had sadly died.   Her cause of death was given as breast cancer.

My Mum's funeral was yesterday (2nd July) and I am still numb and can't believe she has gone.  I will love my Mum forever but I am relieved that she is now out of pain.

Hi Kazza53

Thanks for your reply.

I'm sorry for your loss too, that sounds really quite quick for your mum, that must be hard coming to terms with that. 
I had a bit longer after diagnosis with my mum, although when I lost my dad it was similar. He went into hospital with loss of feeling in his legs, he was there for 2 weeks and then diagnosed with multiple myeloma and then passed away 1 week later. 
 

Whether it's quick or you have time to process beforehand, it's just always so hard when they're gone isn't it?

I'm so glad you got to hold her hand and talk to her at the end, she would have felt at ease with you there and you couldn't ask for more than that. Like you say, it sounds like she didn't suffer and for that you can take comfort.

Hope you are ok, it's still so raw, take time and be kind to yourself. X

Hi Kazza53

Thanks for your reply.

I'm sorry for your loss too, that sounds really quite quick for your mum, that must be hard coming to terms with that. 
I had a bit longer after diagnosis with my mum, although when I lost my dad it was similar. He went into hospital with loss of feeling in his legs, he was there for 2 weeks and then diagnosed with multiple myeloma and then passed away 1 week later. 
 

Whether it's quick or you have time to process beforehand, it's just always so hard when they're gone isn't it?

I'm so glad you got to hold her hand and talk to her at the end, she would have felt at ease with you there and you couldn't ask for more than that. Like you say, it sounds like she didn't suffer and for that you can take comfort.

Hope you are ok, it's still so raw, take time and be kind to yourself. X