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I’ve lost my best friend and my dad

marchairsine
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My dad died on Father's Day, and I'm really struggling.

He had cancer and it took him much sooner than expected

I knew it would hit me hard but this has truly devastated me. I'm 49 but I feel like a lost teenager !

I have great support from my wife and kids but I have this pain that won't go away.

How do you get through this?

  • Hello Marchairsine

    I'm sorry to hear about the recent loss of your Dad. Grief is a natural process, but it can be devastating and it's understandable that you're feeling as you are. I'm glad to hear that you have such good support from your wife and children. 

    I know we've members here in the community who have lost loved ones and I'm sure some of them will post to share their words of support with you but I wanted to reply to suggest that you get in touch with an organisation called Cruse. They are a charity that offers bereavement support and I know that we've many members who have found having that 1-1 talking support to be really helpful in their journey with grief. 

    You're also most welcome to keep posting here on the forum if it helps to have somewhere to offload your thoughts and feelings. 

    Be kind to yourself Marchairsine and take things a day at a time. We're here to listen and offer any support that we can. 

    Best wishes,
    Jenn
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad passed 3 months ago from lung cancer. I'm 34 years old and I too feel so lost. 

    Not a day passes where I don't think about my dad. I often burst out crying and 3 months later I still have days when I feel shocked that he has gone. 

    I have a young baby who keeps me busy and I feel keeping busy helps. I talk to my dad often and I truly believe he is up in heaven listening and he gives me signs he is still with me. 

    Maybe try write your feelings down to get it out. I don't think the pain will ever go away but I have been told by people who have been through it that you slowly just get used to the new reality. 

    I hope you find the strength. 

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