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and now the end is near

Si_in_the_north
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Oh God! Today we have been told that my wife is moving from treatment to end of life care and will be moving to the hospice in the morning.

Its only just over 10 weeks since diagnosis.

She's 44

We have 2 kids aged 9 and 7 who we're going to have to tell

It's still officially Cancer of Unknown Primary, but likely from the bile duct and seems to have taken the Macmillan nurses and the oncologist by surprise as to how aggressive it is.

It's going to be a tough period.

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    I have no words of comfort at this tragic time.

     

    I hope you are able to get support from hospice care team, they will be with you each step you take and they will surround your family with all the support possible. 

     

     

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    Iv just come through this with my mum . I lost her 10 days ago. You will find the strength from somewhere it's amazing how we can stay strong and how our body reacts in order to be there for our loved one . I never slept for 5 nights straight and even since then Iv had poss 20'hour sleep. My heart aches for your poor kids , I can however say I lost my dad when I was 11 and my brother 8 . It was tough but kids are resilient and will be there for you and be a good distraction . I hope Your wife is not suffering and she knows you are with her . Life is cruel at times ! Stay strong ! Lots of love xx

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    [@Si_in_the_north]‍ 

    I just wanted to say I'm so, so sorry to read your latest post. I have no words to make you feel better, though the nurses at the hospices are absolute angels and will give your wife the care she deserves so you're able to spend precious time with her. I'm so sorry youre having to deal with this. Lots of love to you, your wife and children. You're in my thoughts. XXX

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    oh I am so so sorry to read this. I'd just put a reply to your other post and then I saw this. 
    it is going to be a tough time. In my previous reply I said keep talking with your children, what I didn't add was I lost my father when I was 3, it was a generation where not much talking was done of those no longer with us, but I as a child wanted to know all about my father. So just that if and when your children want to talk I think you will. You sound a very caring person. 
    Nothing I say will make things easier but I'm thinking of you and sending my best wishes ....take care 

    Sydie

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