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Finding it so hard

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im not really sure what I want to say but feel this is probably the only place anyone will really understand.

i lost my beautiful Mum just over 3 weeks ago to lung cancer. We only had the diagnosis 3 weeks before that.

I cared for my Mum through those short 3 weeks and was with her right up until the very end. I obviously was devastated to lose her but kept myself busy with arranging the funeral and sorting everything my Dad needing doing.

We laid her to rest 2 days ago & now I think maybe the grief has hit me properly, I feel like my heart it being ripped out & I have absolutely no interest in anything. All I want to do is go sit by her graveside which I know can't be healthy.

Like I said I'm not really sure why I felt posting here was going to help but I just felt I needed to get it out somewhere that people would understand x

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    Hello [@Sam1977]‍ 

    I read your post and I wanted to reply to make sure that you know how you're feeling, even though I know it feels isolating, you're not alone. 

    I lost my beautiful mum 3 months ago now from a very short diagnosis like your mum of lung cancer. Not a day, actually, even an hour goes by that I don't think of her. You're very early into what is a very difficult journey, and a huge life adjustment, as as frustrating as this sounds (when people said it to me, I honestly wanted to scream) there will be some points during the day that you will smile as you'll feel your mum close by. 

    I can't say anything to take away your pain, as well as mine, and all the lovely other people that have commented on your post, but I just hope in time it becomes a little less painful to deal with, and a little less heavy on the heart. 

    Take each day as it comes, and honestly, whatever you're feeling right now is okay and it's valid. One step in front of the other for now. Sending you a huge amount of strength and love xxxx

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    Hello [@Sam1977]‍ 

    I read your post and I wanted to reply to make sure that you know how you're feeling, even though I know it feels isolating, you're not alone. 

    I lost my beautiful mum 3 months ago now from a very short diagnosis like your mum of lung cancer. Not a day, actually, even an hour goes by that I don't think of her. You're very early into what is a very difficult journey, and a huge life adjustment, as as frustrating as this sounds (when people said it to me, I honestly wanted to scream) there will be some points during the day that you will smile as you'll feel your mum close by. 

    I can't say anything to take away your pain, as well as mine, and all the lovely other people that have commented on your post, but I just hope in time it becomes a little less painful to deal with, and a little less heavy on the heart. 

    Take each day as it comes, and honestly, whatever you're feeling right now is okay and it's valid. One step in front of the other for now. Sending you a huge amount of strength and love xxxx

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