Lost my dad suddenly

Hi,

ive never posted to a forum before. My dad was 67, he went into hospital on the 5th of April and was diagnosed with lung cancer on the 6th of April. Got radiotherapy but sadly it had spread to other areas. He was in a lot of pain and was in a hospital over 100 miles away but luckily got put to our local hospital on Thursday the 29th of April. Family had got to see him and he passed on Tuesday the 4th of may (he wasn't even a Star Wars fan for the date).  Even though it's so much better for him no longer suffering (he was on a lot of drugs and was still in a lot of pain) it's such a shock for getting our heads around. Think he just held on to see my mum, my sister, me and my daughter (who will be 20 on Monday) his service is going to be on Tuesday and he's getting cremated on Wednesday my mum wants him home where he belongs. They would of been 47 years married in October. I'm just waffling now just want him back really. I know that's not possible though. He's probably having a pint where ever he is catching up we people he hasn't seen in years. 

  • So sorry to read of your sad loss, totally understand how your feeling.

    My mum went in hospital on Dec 27th and sadly passed away Jan 14th she wasn't in great health but certainly not that ill. My brother and I got to see her but sadly our dad couldn't as he was in a rehab place for post op problems. They had been married 61 years but apart for those last 7 weeks. She told me her greatest fear was something happening and them not seeing each other and that fear came true. Something that will always haunt me.

    In March I got diagnosed with breast cancer and hard as it is without mum know she is with me.

    Remember the good times, talk about him and to him and cry when you need to. Life goes on but he will always be with you. 

    Best wishes for the funeral.

    Louise xxx

  • Hi

    I’m so sorry for your loss and feel your pain. Take comfort in your dads bravery and his unconditional love for you. Talk about your memories, all of the good times. He lives in you all and will always be with you. 

    We just found out two days ago that my dad won’t be with us much longer. He was diagnosed with bone cancer which has spread just about everywhere. He gets radiotherapy next week along with starting palliative care at home. He has been so brave his only thought that he doesn’t want us to suffer. Can’t imagine my life without him. 

    My son found out two weeks ago he’s going to be a daddy for the first time. My dads first great-grandchild he is unlikely to meet. I’ll make sure they know all about their great grandad, my hero!