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She passed so quickly

Raine1904
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I list my mum on February 26th 2021.

She was admitted to hospital on February  12th and diagnosed on Monday 15th. She had primary breast cancer which had spread to 2 places in her spine, her liver and her lungs. On Wednesday Feb 17th she had radiotherapy on her spine.

A few days before she was admitted she showed me a lump under her right breast saying she hadn't been completely truthful with me and the lump had been there about 6 months.

Her biggest fear in life was cancer.

I cant accept shes gone, although when she was admitted she was in excruciating pain she was her normal self.

Her funeral is this coming Tuesday March 23rd, no flowers but donations to cancer research. 

I cant believe in 2 weeks I'd lost her , how did she go so quickly. It's so unfair.  

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    Hey [@Raine1904]‍ 

    I'm sorry to hear of the passing of your mum, and how quick it was. Life is extremely cruel, and it does make you wonder what it's happening sometimes.

    My mum's diagnosis was very similar to yours, admitted via accident and emergency, after a misdiagnosis, as the pain had got so bad. She then had various CT scans and confirmed it was lung cancer, that had spread to bones, the spine in particular. She also had radiotherapy a couple of days later. She passed away 2 weeks after her diagnosis. 

    When I start to feel anger, or extream pain for the loss of my mum, and how quickly it happened, I try to go back to a conversation with her, when she said she was happy it was going to be this way, and not in and out of hospital having chemo, and drugs to then have to potentially repeat the cycle. It doesn't help me, what he does help me preserve the memory of my mum because I know deep down, she genuinely would have hated that cycle. I don't know if this will help you in anyway, but it's just one of the things I seem to cling to when feeling overwhelmed. 

    Lots of love for Tuesday. And if you ever need to chat, just send me a message. Take care of yourself XX

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    Hey [@Raine1904]‍ 

    I'm sorry to hear of the passing of your mum, and how quick it was. Life is extremely cruel, and it does make you wonder what it's happening sometimes.

    My mum's diagnosis was very similar to yours, admitted via accident and emergency, after a misdiagnosis, as the pain had got so bad. She then had various CT scans and confirmed it was lung cancer, that had spread to bones, the spine in particular. She also had radiotherapy a couple of days later. She passed away 2 weeks after her diagnosis. 

    When I start to feel anger, or extream pain for the loss of my mum, and how quickly it happened, I try to go back to a conversation with her, when she said she was happy it was going to be this way, and not in and out of hospital having chemo, and drugs to then have to potentially repeat the cycle. It doesn't help me, what he does help me preserve the memory of my mum because I know deep down, she genuinely would have hated that cycle. I don't know if this will help you in anyway, but it's just one of the things I seem to cling to when feeling overwhelmed. 

    Lots of love for Tuesday. And if you ever need to chat, just send me a message. Take care of yourself XX

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