Lost my partner

Lost my partner of 23yrs on Wednesday from pancreatic cancer. I managed to care for her at home with the excellent support of macmillian and i will be forever grateful that I was able to hold her in my arms whilst she passed on. Now I just feel at a total loss and so empty. 

  •  It's going to get harder each day mate I'm not gonna lie  You're just at the start  i'm only two months in front but honestly feel just the same as you you can't give up one day at a time

  • Thanks for being honest I am fed up with people who keep saying it will get easier in time.

  • Hello,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It's nice you had support and was able to look after her from the comfort of your home.

    I lost my fiancé last Thursday. It was quite sudden and we weren't expecting it. But me, my mum and his parents were able to be by his side the whole time. It feels surreal, I don't know if it's properly sunk in yet. 
    I'm finding all the support really comforting, I hope you have lots of people around you to help x

  • I get that to mate  I've had a hard day it's silly things like putting my little boy in the bath Getting him dry all the things we used to do together why do my children have to suffer with all of this let alone myself what have we ever done so wrong what is my wife have I done so wrong! I guess one day I'll stop asking that question because I'm never gonna find out the truth all you Gotta do is keep thinking she can hear you and talk to her

  • Hi

    I am sorry about your loss I think we have to take some comfort that we were able to be with our loved ones when they passed so many poor people can not even do that at the moment. Yes I find the support comforting and there is always someone out there who is willing to listen  . Try to keep some support around you it will definitely help  my family have had to leave me now and I am certainly finding it harder being alone.

  • Sorry you had a hard day seems every day is hard,  think it will be for a very long time  in fact I can't see when it will ever get easier i don't see how it can when you lose someone so special there will never be anything that can replace what you have lost.  I am still waiting for a sign so I know she is with me I think she is sometimes I have an overwhelming feeling of her presence i like to think she is checking up on me .

  • Hi mate  it's a very slow process it really is just a matter of one day at a time trying to get through it ! Losing that special person in your life is horrible especially at a young age? I really wish this wasn't happening and it was just some bad dream but obviously it's not it's real life which sucks I get to keep my life but my wife had to die so unfair I hate cancer so much

    in time you will get signs Maybe the electrics are flickering your house lights to go on and off your Fanny to go crazy that happened to me my phone was going crazy had pictures on from about four years ago right at the top of my memory screen how did that happen? We also see a little white feathers falling sometimes right on top of us! Eventually I'll get the visitation dreams i've had to the first one she was talking telling me everything is all okay that's all love me forever and those that I love her and she will always be with us! Then the second time she was just like a picture look absolutely gorgeous in pain no cancer nothing All that was ever so comforting I hope to get more!! But obviously what I really want I can never have again until it's my time then I will be able to see you again for ever  

  • How you today hope your ok  x

  • Hi mate not to good today but don't know what i expect starting to worry about the funeral next week hope I can do her proud and do everything she would of wanted panicking that I let her down.  Even tried to ring her today Don't know what is going on in my head life is so cruel . How you doing today.

  • The funeral will be perfect for her I'm sure!I was like that today I left my phone at home went to mum and dads soon as I realised I've left my phone at home I was like I've got I'm gonna get loads of missed calls from the wife how crazy is that? Like you say it's also cruel! 
    my wife was cremated back in January and I've got her ashes at home on the table if she does want to go to the local cemetery is what she told me before she died and I've been sorting out a headstone for her which is going okay I just didn't think I'd have to be doing this not least for another 40 years

    some reason I can't find you on private messaging can you try and find me ?