Hi, my mum passed from pancreatic cancer on the 5th October. She was diagnosed in the April prior following a year of treatment for bowel cancer which she had successfully fought. This second diagnosis came from nowhere and hit her completely. It just so happened the doctor saw she was little jaundice and it spiralled from there.

my mum was my absolute best friend in the whole world and despite her having a husband at home she chose to be with me at the end. I took her to all her treatment, held her hand, celebrated when she had kicked the bowel cancers a*se and eventually stroked her hair and sang to her as she took her final breath. I'm absolutely heartbroken...mum was only 69 and had so much life to live.. we still have my grandmother at a grand old age of 94 and never ever did I imagine mum not being around just so soon.

pancreatic cancer is so so cruel. I wish I had advice as to how to get through the next few days/weeks/months.. all I will say is breath in, breath out.. that's all you need to do right now. Nothing more.

You're In my thoughts 

Thankyou for your kind wishes

Yes it is so cruel I have never felt so helpless not only have I lost my partner,  I have also lost my best friend like you did when you lost your mum i also stroked my partners hair and told her how much I loved her and was playing our record when she took her final breath I am sure it helps me to know she was with me at this time and not alone in some hospital but at the moment I can't feel anything only numb. I have her funeral on Wednesday to get over and then after that I just don't know.

You take care and I hope you can remember the happy times that you had. 

Thankyou for your kind wishes

Yes it is so cruel I have never felt so helpless not only have I lost my partner,  I have also lost my best friend like you did when you lost your mum i also stroked my partners hair and told her how much I loved her and was playing our record when she took her final breath I am sure it helps me to know she was with me at this time and not alone in some hospital but at the moment I can't feel anything only numb. I have her funeral on Wednesday to get over and then after that I just don't know.

You take care and I hope you can remember the happy times that you had.