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Lost my mum to cancer

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Hi, 
 

My name is Amy, I'm 21 (only child) and I lost my mum to breast, lung, liver and bone cancer in May 2019. This absolutely broke my heart. My mum was my best friend and my everything to me. 
 

Does anyone else have really bad PTSD from what they saw happen to their loved one to do with cancer? It's completely changed my view on life, it's scared me, is life really this dark? Losing my mum to cancer at such a young age has really confused me. I cant work or even go to a friends house that's how terrible my anxiety is. 
 

What do you do to grief? I've never lost anyone? Is it normal to cry so much a year and a half later? 
 

Please help me, I'm having an incredibly difficult day. I just miss my mum so much it's unbearable. 
 

kimd regards, 

amy

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    Hi Amy,

    I'm so sorry for your loss and for hearing about your mom. Your experience mirrors my own, I lost my sister last year October who over the years fought breast, kidney, bone cancer and liver cancer. She leaves my 21 year old niece who like you, miss her every day just like you miss your mum.

    I find thinking about the good memories sometimes makes me feel a little better and knowing that my sister no longer is suffering is a comfort. Some days are better than others. I accept when it's not a good day, have my sad time and try and think of the good and positive things that I have in my life. Oh, and listen to lots of music.

    Have you though if seeing a counsellor to help you learn to live without your mom and to help you with your anxiety? It's not easy and it may take some time, but you need to find your way to coping without your mum, sometimes you may need the help of others, friends or family to get you through, you are not alone. There is help out there. Just take each day as it comes and don't put pressure on yourself. Return to work when you feel ready to do so.

    I wish you all the best.

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    Hi Amy,

    I'm so sorry for your loss and for hearing about your mom. Your experience mirrors my own, I lost my sister last year October who over the years fought breast, kidney, bone cancer and liver cancer. She leaves my 21 year old niece who like you, miss her every day just like you miss your mum.

    I find thinking about the good memories sometimes makes me feel a little better and knowing that my sister no longer is suffering is a comfort. Some days are better than others. I accept when it's not a good day, have my sad time and try and think of the good and positive things that I have in my life. Oh, and listen to lots of music.

    Have you though if seeing a counsellor to help you learn to live without your mom and to help you with your anxiety? It's not easy and it may take some time, but you need to find your way to coping without your mum, sometimes you may need the help of others, friends or family to get you through, you are not alone. There is help out there. Just take each day as it comes and don't put pressure on yourself. Return to work when you feel ready to do so.

    I wish you all the best.

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