Dad dying from Oesophageal Cancer

I'm hoping someone will be going through similar as I feel very alone.

I'm 20, 21 next week and my daddy who is my bestfriend is in his last few days / hours. He got diagnosed 18 months ago, I have been with him every day since. My mum is a nurse and giving him all his care and I'm at uni studying paramedic science, I am now helping my mum too but it is the most confronting thing watching my dad slip away from me and lose all awareness. He still smiles when we talk which is giving me hope, I am very much in denial but I'm so heartbroken. My family dynamic has changed dramatically as my older brother couldn't cope so walked out. Me mum and dad are so unbelievably close and life is so unfair. My mum and dad are still so in love and the devotion from mum is admirable, she is going to be so lost and I'm so worried for her afterwards as I know she won't cope without him. As mum is a nurse and giving dad all his care, we have been left alone pretty much and I feel I need someone to talk to now, I've tried to be strong for mum but it's hard. 

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  • Hi, I couldnt read your post and not reply, you are a similar age to my eldest son, who is 22, and his father (my husband of 23 years) also has this awful illness. You sound like a lovely family, and you are clearly being incredibly supportive to both mum and dad. I think your mum may surprise you with strength when needed, she is a nurse and they are incredibly brave people in my experience! You will have each other too. Its such a shame that covid restrictions mean we cannot see friends or have hugs during such a difficult time. Maybe to check on your brother too, men dont deal with grief or feelings as openly as us girls, but it doesn't mean he doesn't care. For now all I can say is please take care, there are many of us here on the chats who will understand what you are going through, so dont be afraid to come back and chat. Sending you a huge hug you are a very brave young lady xxx

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  • Hi, I couldnt read your post and not reply, you are a similar age to my eldest son, who is 22, and his father (my husband of 23 years) also has this awful illness. You sound like a lovely family, and you are clearly being incredibly supportive to both mum and dad. I think your mum may surprise you with strength when needed, she is a nurse and they are incredibly brave people in my experience! You will have each other too. Its such a shame that covid restrictions mean we cannot see friends or have hugs during such a difficult time. Maybe to check on your brother too, men dont deal with grief or feelings as openly as us girls, but it doesn't mean he doesn't care. For now all I can say is please take care, there are many of us here on the chats who will understand what you are going through, so dont be afraid to come back and chat. Sending you a huge hug you are a very brave young lady xxx

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