Lost my husband yesterday after 4 day ago diagnosis

Hi guys

My world came crash down yesterday. 13 days ago my husband was told he had a growth on his oesophagus and needed to go in the next day for a pre opp.. 7 days later he went in to have a biopsy and stent fitted. It was the last time I saw him until I had the emergency call yesterday morning to go in and hold his hand. Luckily he had a private room and there was no covid around.

The biopsy caused his stomach to split open on the first day, as the tuma was large and must have been there for some time, a 1 in 100 occurance the surgeon said.

Then a chest infection 3 days later and then his heart stopped.. they did all the could before I got there but his organs began to give up.

It didn't take long, a matter of precious hours.

The staff were amazing but it doesn't take away this emptiness, numbness and pain I have inside me. I feel like I'm never going to stop crying.

21  years weve been together no children from me but a gorgeous step daughter and grand daughter .

I know life goes on but I'm finding it hard to see a way forward.

Living the nightmare we all so easily hear of and dismiss 

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  • My heart is breaking for you, I am so sorry to hear about your partner and I can't imagine your pain.

    my husband was diagnosed on Tuesday 2nd Feb that he has advanced stage 4 Oesophagus cancer which has spread to his lymph nodes and Liver. We have a 16 year old daughter who is a daddy's girl and absolutely devasted.

    we've been told that it's inoperable but will give chemo to try and reduce the cancer and enable him to 

    to eat and feel better.

    we have been told that the time frame is about a year but I have already noticed a deterioration in his eating and his weight lose is dreadfully to see, he was 19 stone and 6.3inches so was a large man,

    its crippling to see him now.

    I fear we have less time than suggested   and my world is tumbling down, I also had the news that my brother died yesterday morning so it's a double yammie 

    My deepest condolences  

  • Honey I'm sorry I know what your going through. I am here if you need to talk.. if you want my number at any time please contact me.. its so hard I know xxx big hugs ... xxxx penny xxxxxxxx

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