Lost my husband yesterday after 4 day ago diagnosis

Hi guys

My world came crash down yesterday. 13 days ago my husband was told he had a growth on his oesophagus and needed to go in the next day for a pre opp.. 7 days later he went in to have a biopsy and stent fitted. It was the last time I saw him until I had the emergency call yesterday morning to go in and hold his hand. Luckily he had a private room and there was no covid around.

The biopsy caused his stomach to split open on the first day, as the tuma was large and must have been there for some time, a 1 in 100 occurance the surgeon said.

Then a chest infection 3 days later and then his heart stopped.. they did all the could before I got there but his organs began to give up.

It didn't take long, a matter of precious hours.

The staff were amazing but it doesn't take away this emptiness, numbness and pain I have inside me. I feel like I'm never going to stop crying.

21  years weve been together no children from me but a gorgeous step daughter and grand daughter .

I know life goes on but I'm finding it hard to see a way forward.

Living the nightmare we all so easily hear of and dismiss 

Parents
  • So sorry to hear, i lost mine in april to oesophagus cancer, only 44 years old. We had no idea anything was wrong, no symptoms.  His tumor was at the junction of oesophagus and stomach but had already spread throughout liver and he was put straight into palliative care. We had an awful 11 month journey of chemo to try and shrink the tumors and give him more time, it was a horrendous time, he was often in pain and discomfort, and we had to live with the knowledge that we knew noone could save him...we have two girls, 13 and 9 and were together 21 years. It's an awful shock, sending hugs xx

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  • So sorry to hear, i lost mine in april to oesophagus cancer, only 44 years old. We had no idea anything was wrong, no symptoms.  His tumor was at the junction of oesophagus and stomach but had already spread throughout liver and he was put straight into palliative care. We had an awful 11 month journey of chemo to try and shrink the tumors and give him more time, it was a horrendous time, he was often in pain and discomfort, and we had to live with the knowledge that we knew noone could save him...we have two girls, 13 and 9 and were together 21 years. It's an awful shock, sending hugs xx

Children
  • Its heat breaking hun no one will ever understand the pain it puts you through. I send all my love to you for been so strong for your husband and girls xxx

    Didnt sleep last night and ran out of tears by 5pm, managed to find a few more looking at memories xxx which no one can take from us xxx

  • Hello, my husband had excally the same, hardly no symptoms until it had gone too far, he was gone within 6 months, he was a very young 69, I miss him terribly, life is so strange, what with Covid and bereavement it's not good. I try and be strong but it is difficult. It is a sort of comfort reading the posts here, just knowing your feeling are the same. I just hope life will improve at some time. We have to remember the good and happy times, look after yourself.

  •  I'm so sorry for your loss cancer sucks I lost my wife to breast cancer on the 22nd of December  she left me a 9 year old and a 2 year old  I feel your pain  I'm here if you want to chat