Hello I'm sorry for your loss  this world really is a cruel place I lost my wife on the same day  to breast cancer she way 39  left behind myself and two boys she 9 and 2  I don't want to go on with out my wife  I have to try for the boys 

Hi 

it is extremely difficult and I totally understand as my wife was not only my wife but also my best friend as well and sole partner, at the moment we are simply lost in a big world 

for the sake of your children you need to be strong and give them a life that would make your wife so proud of you

In My mind I keep telling myself that I was lucky to get to spend 35 years with my wife , although it is still extremely hard

but the love of my children as with you and your children will help you going forward 

Hi sound like the doctor messed up completely with your wife  that must be so hard for you on top of everything else. I'm I mess  a real mess   She was my life my meaning of live  she could do literally anything for me we trust each other completely in every way possible  our bedroom is  just like she left it  with gives me some comfort ! My last promises to her was to look after our boy  I have no idea how I'm going to do that but I must for her 

Hi 

I have had my first bereavement counselling session this afternoon and it really helped to be able just to get things out, nothing ever prepares us to lose our life partner. I do think though talking to a person who is not part of the family seems to help as they are not suffering the Same grief 

one of the last things my wife said to me was to always look out for our grandchildren and give them enough love for both of us

i also find it helps to write things down and I also wrote my wife's eulogy and read it out in church 

children are our future and you sound like you really love your children so much, through them you will find the strength to keep going 

I am requesting my wife's medical record as I believe that there is malpractice involved 

I wish you all the best for the future and use your children to give you that strength to keep going 

I'm glad you had your first counselling session sounds like it helped you   Glad you seem ok. I'm can't stop asking why her why me  why our children we are all good people 

Hi Chris 

I ask exactly the same question over and over again and still don't have the answer and like you we were good people and never harmed anyone in our lives, my wife was the most selfless person I ever knew

I imagine your wife was the same and only lived for her family 

take care 

I know how you are feeling and it's so unreal. I lost my husband of 35 years back in June and I feel totally lost and afraid. I hate the thought of being on my own, my husband and I were best friends and it's so difficult without him, I hate waking up each day without him. I can see you have been through a dreadful time. That is hard to get over. I don't know if things will get any easier, but right now every day is such a challenge. I do hide my emotions, I really don't like to bother anyone. What with all the lockdowns life is so difficult. Hope you can stay strong, I do find this site helps to know that we are not alone. Please look after yourself. 

Dear friend 

thank you for your kind message ,  

I am the same and getting out of bed each morning is hard , I has a counselling session yesterday and it really helped, nothing will bring back our loved ones, but I am thankful that I had 35 years with my wonderful wife and I am sure that she along with your husband would want us to get on with our lives and we would have wanted them to if it was the other way around. 
they say time is a great healer and although I will always love my wife, I know that she would want me to be positive and think about the future and making sure that my family are ok

i hope this helps but I find keeping busy helps and I don't worry about bothering other people, if they are true friends, they don't care

wishing you all the best 

Glen17

You right, my husband would want me to get on with things, but it's really hard, as we did things together, some things I couldn't do which I find very frustrating, I do keep busy, just washed the car, then I feel sad there is no one to have some lunch with. Days are long and can be lonely with not being able to see friends with what is going on. 
Like you we had 35 years together, it's just overwhelming sometimes that I am on my own now. 
Look after yourself, and stay strong, I'll try my best. 

I hope your ok?