What a great taste in music! We were much the same my wife loved so much music   All kinds  from the80s one hit wonder to  to AC/DC  then drum and bace (I hate)  but bonjovi was our favourite- music sometimes help me then I fall again and again I'm sure it's the same for you  hope you're  having an ok evening  are leave you to it 

Hi Chris,

I am so sorry for the loss of your wife, I cant begin to imagine how you must feel.

It must be so hard for you having to be strong for your children.

My heart is with you.

I lost a very dear friend to breast cancer 5 years ago, she was 37years old and left behind her husband and son who was around 4 years old. 

In reflection of my friendship, which I know is very different to the situation of you and your wife and family it took a long time to come to terms with what had happened but I found it helped to not look too far into the future. Take each day and focus on the here and now.

I lost my sister to cancer on the 27th December 2020, the heartache is immense and to think that she is no longer by my side breaks my heart. 

I do find that putting certain things in place helps immensely, such as like you, a memory jar. I have located books from Amazon called About My Sister, theyre like a journal and you can collate information about the people you've lost, I am completing it for my neice and nephew, lots of funny things and stories from our childhood. I'm sure there's one called my mum which may be beneficial to your children as they grow. 

I also find photos help but some people may find it too painful to look at photos so soon after losing a loved one. 

Please take care of yourself and your family. Sending heartfelt condolences to you. xxxx

Thank you for your kind words  I never dreamed  my live  would  suddenly get run over by a steam roller  yes the wife had cancer but I never thought of this ending  at all . I'm sorry to hear about your sister  I no your pain im here if you want to talk x

Same here for yourself. Chatting is therapeutic. Your wife was so young, I'm so sorry. Sending heartfelt hugs xxx

I'm I real mess  I went to the river today to feed the ducks with the boys but cried most of the time why was she taken. From us ? I lookaround  to see loads of kids with there mums x

Hope your ok 

Yes it's been abit of a down day, struggled to get out of bed, somehow have managed to hurt my neck so I'm sitting with a heat pad on it. 
 

I did take the rubbish out though so small victory. 
 

hope you have been ok.

Sorry to hear about your neck that sucks!we all have down days  my day was crap way to much crying went to  my local graveyard and cryed even more how can  all this be happening to me  I'm a good person 

I know and im positive your wife was a good person too and that she did not deserve any of this. 
lewis would always see those stand up to cancer adverts that say one in two of us will have cancer in our lifetimes, he would always say I hope it's me then I've taken it so you will be fine that was the way he saw it. 
 

I'm going to have to meet Lewis mum and her husband and the funeral place next week and I'm dreading it, I don't know what's going to happen and it just makes it so real I mean I know he's gone but that's he's really really gone.  I hate being alone but I really don't want any company right now. 

Thank you yes she was a great person and so are you and Lewis! Lewis sounds so much like my wife in so many ways  keeping strong for us! I feel the same  about sorting out the funeral it makes it more and more real I completely understand. I seem to be a real mess today