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My dad died..

Alexxx
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I'm completly devastated

my dad was diagnosed with bladder cancer a month ago which spread to his bone (hip), chest and belly. The doctor said that without treatment he has months and with treatment maybe years. He was in pain because the cancer spread to the bone but he was fighting, he was such a strong man. On Tuesday 22/12/20 he had a bone biopsy. He was feeling well that day, he was a little stressed but I still can't believe what happened couple hours later .. we came back home around 2 o'clock from the hospital and then the horror started. He was so much in pain, shortness of breath, sweats etc. He said to me that he is dying and said goodbye to me I called the ambulance, they did the cpr for nearly an hour, 6 adrenaline's and stuff and he didn't make it I can't sleep, he was the world to me. He was only 56 yrs.. and I can't imagine my life without him. Also we are from different country and he always wanted to have his funeral in Poland which stress me so much because the borders are closed and I'm not sure if I will be able to do it for him

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    Hi Alex,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing I can say or do that will take your pain away. I too lost my dad to bladder cancer on the 10th of November. He too was my world along with my mum and miss him dearly. Christmas has been especially tough. Please take some comfort from him not being in pain anymore. Although it may not seem it now things will get easier. If you need to chat some more I am more than happy to do so. Take care

    Steve

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    Thank you for your comment. And I'm so so sorry for your loss too it's so so hard, everyday gets worse for me especially that there was no sign that something like that may happen day earlier. It happened just after biopsy.. he had heart attack just 4 years earlier which it's truly heartbreaking for our family. He was my idol and I don't know how my life is gonna looks like without him.

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    Hi Alex,

    How are you getting on? Sorry for the delayed reply. Its really tough I know, especially at this time of year. My dad also deteriorated very quickly and his passing was unexpected. I know it may not seem like it now but things will get easier. You just have to take one day at a time. I too have been struggling this christmas but have tried to remember the good times I had with him. Just take your time to grieve there is no rush. I'm sure he would not want you to be sad and he knows how much you loved him.

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    Hello Steve 

     

    like i mentioned earlier its just getting harder day by day. Also the coroner decided to do post partum as they don't know what caused his death. So everything will take so long. Even if we will be able to take my daddy to Poland , the funeral will be around 20 ish of Jan which makes my so so angry as I want my lovely dad to finally rest in peace in his country .. life is so cruel I have no words.. this year I lost so many loved ones, on Jan 7th this year my grandma passed away (my dads mum by the way), then cousin and now the most important person in my entire life.. 

    I LOVE YOU SO MUCH DAD AND I MISS YOU!!

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