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Phew! Big wave of grief! Husband passed away in October

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My husband died of Advanced prostate cancer in early October. I thought I was coping reasonably well but today I've just cried and cried and can't seem to stop! I thought I'd done with all the tears but, Oh boy, today has been dreadful - feeling bereft and distraught. Is this normal? 

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    I am so sorry, I can imagine how you are feeling, I lost my husband of 35 years back in June, I am trying to be strong, but inside I am screaming for help. What a dreadful feeling, I don't like to put on others, I try to cope, but it's so hard. Have you had any help at all? With what is going on with the Covid I don't like to bother people.  Christmas will not be easy, just have to go through it. I feel that I can not even smile any more. I don't know what advice to give, just that I feel your pain and hope in time we can get a bit better. Just look after yourself and we must try and be kind to ourselves. It's just a horrible feeling that doesn't go away, we have to remember the good times we had. 

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    I know exactly how you feel I lost my husband of 40 years on the 12th December I'm completely lost we did everything together he was a very special man. I think what's worse we can't say our final goodbye till the 8th January. Coming back from my daughters to an empty house today Christmas Day is so painful they've tried their best but Christmas hasn't really meant much without him. Thinking if you and wishing you all the best. 

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    Hi, I lost my husband in June and its horrendous. All though its been 6 months i still have emotional break downs. It builds up especially this time of year it so hard and lonely. It is normal To feel this way we have lost biggest partof out lifes. We did everything together. Lifes so cruel. 

    Take care x

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