Hello winniethepooh,

I just wanted to stop by to say how sorry I am to hear about the loss of your close friend.

As many here can tell you, there is simply no right or wrong way to feel grief, so please try to take things a day at a time if you can and be easy on yourself.

We do have some information on coping with grief on our website I wanted to share with you and I hope this will make things a little better.

And please remember, whenever you need a chat we're here for you.

All the best,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

My fiancé passed away last week, I never said goodbye to him, he said in the morning that he had enough, really clearly as everything else was just mumbles, it took me a few hours to be able to say he could go if he needed too but I was not ready and that I did not want him to go. He went when I said to him I was going for a wee and a bite to eat. I knew he would he said the week previously to a hospice nurse that he did not want me to see him at the end. It was expected obviously but not because his breathing had not changed and he was the same all day so I believe he chose to go because he knew I was not there. I did not go and see him afterwards either as was his wish and I did not want to see it either.