Hi Nat

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking. I'm 25, I lost my mum (46) nearly 4 weeks ago. I also have 2 sisters, I'm the eldest, they are 21 and 5. She was terminal with pancreatic cancer but had just over 2 years and the rollercoaster of emotions we've been on is indescrible.

My one piece of advice is to keep going, do what feels right at that moment & don't put pressure on yourself. There is no old path, there's only a new path now, own the person you've become. I wish I could have told myself that when my Mum was diagnosed, as these are things I've learnt along the way. I've had to learn to get on with life (as much as I could) while living and knowing my Mum was going to die, it's been awful and traumatic and I almost feel regret that I didn't do more but there wasn't anything more I could do! Nor she wanted me to do!

Just appreciate what you both had and be thankful you have the memories & that you have your family to cherish. I don't think it'll ever get easier, we just have to keep going. That's what my Mum always said, she was an absolute trooper.

Elle x

Hi Elle.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I'm sorry you lost your mum so young, life can be so unfair. 
 

My mum passed away from lung cancer, which subsequently spread to her lymph nodes and bones. She lived just shy of 12 months from diagnosis. Her diagnosis was picked up from a chest X-ray due to her having a chest infection, it was already incurable at that stage. Huge shock to the family and I'll never forget going to visit her in the hospital and the consultant pulling me into a side room and delivering the words we never wanted to hear. He'd been waiting for me to arrive as he didn't want to give her the news on her own. 
 

it's been a long and bumpy road as Mum pretty much gave up from that day. She allowed everything to be done for her. It was awful to watch my strong, independent mum become a shell of who she was. 
 

You're right regarding a new path, things will never be like they were before. She was the glue to our family. I guess I need to become a variation of that glue for my sisters.

I'm here if you want to talk, I know losing a parent young (although I'm older than you) is so hard. I don't have anyone around me that has lost a parent so find it hard to relate to them, as do they. No one wants to be in our club! 

Thanks

Nat x

Hi Elle.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I'm sorry you lost your mum so young, life can be so unfair. 
 

My mum passed away from lung cancer, which subsequently spread to her lymph nodes and bones. She lived just shy of 12 months from diagnosis. Her diagnosis was picked up from a chest X-ray due to her having a chest infection, it was already incurable at that stage. Huge shock to the family and I'll never forget going to visit her in the hospital and the consultant pulling me into a side room and delivering the words we never wanted to hear. He'd been waiting for me to arrive as he didn't want to give her the news on her own. 
 

it's been a long and bumpy road as Mum pretty much gave up from that day. She allowed everything to be done for her. It was awful to watch my strong, independent mum become a shell of who she was. 
 

You're right regarding a new path, things will never be like they were before. She was the glue to our family. I guess I need to become a variation of that glue for my sisters.

I'm here if you want to talk, I know losing a parent young (although I'm older than you) is so hard. I don't have anyone around me that has lost a parent so find it hard to relate to them, as do they. No one wants to be in our club! 

Thanks

Nat x