Hello I’m new and I lost my mom

Hi

i hope you don't mind me bearing all. My mom passed away March 2020 after ovarian cancer. No surgery too far gone. Here we are 9 months later and I miss her so very very much. I have feelings of joyous memories and surrounding love but then I'm consumed with overwhelming grief . It's a dark dungeon I can't get escape. I love my mom and I'm struggling to carry on. People see me, I can put on a full face on make up and crack on, but I miss her so so much. I just want one last cuddle, one last I love you. I Love you mom, I miss you too much xx

  • This is my first post too, you sound way too young to have lost your mom. Grief can be all consuming sadly, hold on to the joyous memories you have of your mom darling, and the happy times, albeit cruelly cut short. Make your mom proud, soldier on, she would want you to, surround yourself with friends, if you have siblings talk about mom, and the happy times you enjoyed, life can never be the same sadly, her place can never be filled, but the best way of coping is to talk, if you can’t talk to anyone else because it’s painful, talk to her when you’re on your own, tell her what you loved about her and what you miss, that’s what I did and it got me through. I wish you well, stay strong. XX

     

     

  • I lost my mum less than 2 years ago. It's hard for me to think about her when she wasn't ill. Surround yourself with photos of your mum and remember the good times. Remember that your mum lives on in you and she will always be part of your life because she made you who you are. Keep going and make the most of everyday. You are her legacy. If I was half the person my mum was I would be amazing. Remember the good times and remember to smile. Look after yourself xx 

  • Thank you for your kindness. Mom is always there, ever present in my thoughts. If I'm being honest with myself I haven't yet come to terms that she has gone. I sat out on Thursday in the quiet sun thinking how much she would have enjoyed that, doing nothing just listening to the birds. I miss the idle chat, I miss her feistiness, I miss her love and care. I miss her so so much xxx

  • Hi so sorry for your loss

    I lost my mam 2 weeks ago. She was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer 2 years ago. Unfortunately she died in hospital and I was 5 minutes too late to hold her hand. I feel lost now as being so busy preparing her funeral,  sorting out her flat never really had time to grieve. I am managing by blanking out the dark days and remembering the good times of which there were many. I do feel empty as she was a massive part of my life and know there will be difficult days ahead. I guess everybody deals with grief differently and I for one know I will struggle for many months and years. 
    I have found these forums really helpful and it makes you realise how many people are going through the same experiences.

    I hope you find these forums useful and can give you some help on how best to cope with losing someone so close. 
    Best of luck for the future and hope you can find a way of dealing with the difficult days.

    Take care