Thank you all so much for your replies. my lad is 22 years old he lives at home. well I say he lives at home. he spends no more than most times when my wife was alive at his girlfriends. my daughteris 30 and has four little darlings. so she has her hands full time.  I did inlude my wife name in the Christmas cards to my son and daughter, with  a short message in her memory. As my lad read the card he had tears running down his cheeks, and said thanks dad that was beautiful. I apologised as it wasn't meant to upest him. My daughter rang and said more or less the same as my son.  But she added the grand kids on Christmas eve went outside looked at the stars and got upset because it was cloudy, as they wanted to thank granma and see her as an angel, and asked Santa to bring her back.  grand kids say the nicest things with out realising, how much it  means there great kids and they enjoyed opening there presents, I was happy for them, but in my heart of hearts mine is still broken.

Happy new year to everyone. and thank you again for all the support thats given to one and all.