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Helping my mother with grief and loss

SteveyB
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Hi,

This is my first time posting here but I could do with sone advice. 
My dad died almost 2 weeks ago now from a 2 year battle with bladder cancer. The family are absolutely devastated as am I. I am really struggling with grief and trying to support my mother. My mum has been together with my dad for over 40 years. Now he is gone she is fearful of being at home on her own. Unfortunately both my parents have led a relatively private life with not many friends or family to turn to. I myself live with my partner not far away but struggle to give massive amounts of time to her due to my own work commitments etc. She real fearful of being at home on her own at night. What can I do to help her O feel at a loss?

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    Hi SteveyB, it will be hard for Mum and I am in my 70s and my husband has stage 4 lung cancer, so I am aware of the struggles ahead.  I'm not scared but that's me, so why not have an alarm installed in her bedroom that she can activate if anything happens.  I know you can also get an alarm to wear that will activate a service, who will then contact you.  These little things might make her feel safer.  It is going to take time and patience but she has to be stronger in the future or she will become very nervous of everything.  I'm sorry for your loss.  Kind regards, Carol 

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    I lost my partner to stage 4 now just over a year later .

    More has happened to pull me down I want to die and I planning it. Although you may be in better place than me you have people that care.

    I can't find the caring.

    Take all the love you are given 

    You will get through.

     

  • in reply to Jassyanne

    Hi Jassyanne,

    I just saw your post and wanted to send a reply. I'm very sorry to read about your partner and the tough time it sounds as if you're going through.

    I see it's been a while since you posted on the forum, but I wanted to say that we are always here for support anytime. Please do use this as a safe space, even if it's just a case of writing things down and knowing there are others here who listen and understand.

    Of course I'm not sure exactly what is going on in your life but there are always other avenues for support too if you feel you need them. This includes organisations such as Cruse (bereavement care), the charity Samaritans (freephone number 116 123) local support groups, or perhaps a counsellor.

    As I say, we are always here for you for support.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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  • in reply to Jassyanne

    Hi Jassyanne,

    I just saw your post and wanted to send a reply. I'm very sorry to read about your partner and the tough time it sounds as if you're going through.

    I see it's been a while since you posted on the forum, but I wanted to say that we are always here for support anytime. Please do use this as a safe space, even if it's just a case of writing things down and knowing there are others here who listen and understand.

    Of course I'm not sure exactly what is going on in your life but there are always other avenues for support too if you feel you need them. This includes organisations such as Cruse (bereavement care), the charity Samaritans (freephone number 116 123) local support groups, or perhaps a counsellor.

    As I say, we are always here for you for support.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

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