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My dad passed away I don’t know what to do

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My dad passed away from stomach cancer in July shortly after my 17th birthday I've had good help from my family but sometimes I hate talking to anyone in person about it because I can see sadness in their eyes and I hate causing that I brave through my days but I often feel lost I was expecting my dad to see me off to university and for my parents to travel this year but he was diagnosed in March and passed away shortly after he passed away at home and I tried to save him but it didn't work and it makes me feel terrible I just wanted to vent how I felt even if no one sees this if you have a Similar story and you'd like to share or vent feel free to I'm not great at advice but if someone's very recently lost a loved one feel free to comment.

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... loosing a parent so young is very crule ... and we all grieve differently .. 

    I felt the same as you after loosing my amazing mum ... I would get a thought in my head when something happened like a programme she liked or a food she loved .. anything really .. and when I'd say it in those early years , like mum would love that ... or do you remember when mum ... and this look of sadness would come over my sister's.... like they'd cry if I said more ... so I learned for a few years to not do that .. 

    But I did still talk about her to friends or my young son's ... and slowly my siblings could talk about her .. in my head , if we stopped talking about her , wed loose her ... and i wanted to bring her with me .. now 30 odd years down the line, even my little granddaughter knows how amazing she was ... and went we see a white feather... she picks it up and says its from my mums wings .... 

    So I'd just say find a way .. put down your memories ... your thoughts ... wer all here and really understand the need to share ...  sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... loosing a parent so young is very crule ... and we all grieve differently .. 

    I felt the same as you after loosing my amazing mum ... I would get a thought in my head when something happened like a programme she liked or a food she loved .. anything really .. and when I'd say it in those early years , like mum would love that ... or do you remember when mum ... and this look of sadness would come over my sister's.... like they'd cry if I said more ... so I learned for a few years to not do that .. 

    But I did still talk about her to friends or my young son's ... and slowly my siblings could talk about her .. in my head , if we stopped talking about her , wed loose her ... and i wanted to bring her with me .. now 30 odd years down the line, even my little granddaughter knows how amazing she was ... and went we see a white feather... she picks it up and says its from my mums wings .... 

    So I'd just say find a way .. put down your memories ... your thoughts ... wer all here and really understand the need to share ...  sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

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