OK, my heads full of a million and one things, but I'll try and get my message across best I can.
I lost my wife on 12th July at 17.15pm. WOW. this is so hard. 3 months on, and I still can't accept she has gone.
I would just like to say to those who have lost a love one, my heart goes out to you all.
If you had your partner home for her remaining days, Again my heart goes out to you. for me,. it was a very stressful time ..
So much so being diabetic I had a couple of hypo's as the pressures of watching my wife slowly ebbing away. it must of frightened my wife, but my son and daughter helped me through. they were a tower of strength for their mum and me. I'm not going into detail on her final week, other than I was holding her hand telling her how much I loved her, as she gave out her final breath.
It was carols Birthday in October, I realised that was her first Birthday without her. then it hit me. It's going to be the first Xmas and new year without her. How do I cope. will I cope
So sadened to hear of you loss. I can't begin to even imagine how you must be feeling.
But please don't be so hard on yourself, 3 months is not long a long time to feel any sense of recovery or acceptance process. Your wife was your life partner and that loss will be with you always. There is no time or schedual in place to deal with somethng as major as a loss of someone so close. We are all individuals and our relationships are our very own especailly when you have had, on top of everyting else, your own health issues to deal with.
Birthdays and all celebrations will all be hard but I hope you find the strenght to see and feel that while your wife is no longer physically with you, you stil have yor children and many full memories that you can all share on these occasions.
My husband is on palliative care and each day I see a difference in him. We don't have childern togther or any support, so we are manging the best we can between us.
Covid hasn't helped. I am sure you must have felt the impact of that too as your wife pased away during the pandemic period.
I am try and keep my focus on the present as inevitable as it is I really dont want to look past it.
But enough about us. Please do take care of yourself. You have 2 amazing children and many happy moments to share with them in the future.
So sadened to hear of you loss. I can't begin to even imagine how you must be feeling.
But please don't be so hard on yourself, 3 months is not long a long time to feel any sense of recovery or acceptance process. Your wife was your life partner and that loss will be with you always. There is no time or schedual in place to deal with somethng as major as a loss of someone so close. We are all individuals and our relationships are our very own especailly when you have had, on top of everyting else, your own health issues to deal with.
Birthdays and all celebrations will all be hard but I hope you find the strenght to see and feel that while your wife is no longer physically with you, you stil have yor children and many full memories that you can all share on these occasions.
My husband is on palliative care and each day I see a difference in him. We don't have childern togther or any support, so we are manging the best we can between us.
Covid hasn't helped. I am sure you must have felt the impact of that too as your wife pased away during the pandemic period.
I am try and keep my focus on the present as inevitable as it is I really dont want to look past it.
But enough about us. Please do take care of yourself. You have 2 amazing children and many happy moments to share with them in the future.
