Hello

i am so sorry to hear of your loss .
I understand how you feel .
My partner died just 2 weeks ago ,fighting cancer right till the end . 

It is so hard for the family left behind when

everything stops and the nurses  & drs stop visiting 

 It is still early days for you  and it must be very raw . Of course you will still be talking to your wife it will help you to make sense of everything , I find I am still talking to my partner we were together over 30 years .

We have a  17 year old daughter so I am trying to be positive ,she has her life ahead of her .
Keeping to a routine is helping me even when I don't feel like it .

Walking the dog ,shopping  , gardening , paperwork 

house maintenance anything to give some structure.

Try to look after yourself and keep eating and drinking , my daughter and I have lost our appetite but we are eating little snacks to keep going . 
I find when I am tired and I haven't had much to eat , drink I am more tearful .
The first few days after he died  I felt numb. Now I feel sad and emotional an emptiness comes  with memories everywhere .
 

  I worry about crying in front of my daughter although she doesn't know what to say  I think it's better that she sees it's ok to cry instead of trying to hide it . 

My GP rang me to see how we are and mentioned support also  the hospice where my partner died has a counsellor so I think I will take them up on their offer to talk to someone who understands . 
I hope you have support from your GP and family or friends .
Take care  of yourself 

ksg 

So sorry about your loss and yes my lads are 16 and 17 and I can't cry with them as I'm trying to be strong for them as well as myself, I must say there's a big empty space in my life now and I know it can't be replaced 

take care 

I lost my husband 1 year ago today and I know it will be hard but you some how get through it .  The time has gone so quick and I have only just managed to do the ashes today . We were happily married for 19yrs and together 26yrs .  We have two amazing children son now 19 and daughter now 16 .  So I know where you are coming from you do hide your tears from them but sometimes you have to let it out this also helps them too . Thinking of you .

Victiria 

Hello Mal 1970,

I am so sorry to hear about your wife. I can understand that you must be feeling empty and numb at the moment, and why you don't want to show your emotions to your children. You obviously want to be seen to be strong in front of them and you don't want burden them with your grief.

My wife passed away in June 2018 and I know what you are going through, to be honest I don't feel any different than from day one. But this isn't amount me.

All the very best to you and your family in the future and stay strong.

And I hope all the other people who have posted, Carmarthenshire, ksg and Victoria can try and find some happiness in these tragic times x

Hello Mal 1970,

I am so sorry to hear about your wife. I can understand that you must be feeling empty and numb at the moment, and why you don't want to show your emotions to your children. You obviously want to be seen to be strong in front of them and you don't want burden them with your grief.

My wife passed away in June 2018 and I know what you are going through, to be honest I don't feel any different than from day one. But this isn't amount me.

All the very best to you and your family in the future and stay strong.

And I hope all the other people who have posted, Carmarthenshire, ksg and Victoria can try and find some happiness in these tragic times x