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When everyone else keeps going

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It's been 4 months since I lost my dad and it seems to get more painful every day. I'm really struggling with it because I miss him more every day. I feel like I'm standing still in so much pain watching the world go by and it feels like people are thinking ok it's been 4 months get on with it....get back to normal. I'm starting to feel like on those really bad days when I need to talk or I just can't stop the tears that I'm burdening people or they are tired of listening to my pain. I honestly feel so trapped in grief and I'm desperate to come up for air. I can't sleep without taking pills to help and I'm either angry or so low I just don't want to engage with anyone. How can people say it gets better in time? I only seem to hurt more

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  • Hello csc

    I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling so much at the moment. 4 months is still very early days in your journey with grief and with everything else that has happened due to the Covid19 pandemic, I think it's understandable that you're feeling as you are. 

    Have you spoken to your GP or a counsellor about how you're feeling? Do give your GP a call if you've not spoken to them as they will be able to give you some support. Alternatively give Cruse a call and they will be able to arrange for you to talk to someone so that you can have some support in working through your thoughts and feelings. 

    Grief can feel like a very lonely place to be at times but know that you're welcome to offload here on the forum at any point if it helps. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

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  • Hello csc

    I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling so much at the moment. 4 months is still very early days in your journey with grief and with everything else that has happened due to the Covid19 pandemic, I think it's understandable that you're feeling as you are. 

    Have you spoken to your GP or a counsellor about how you're feeling? Do give your GP a call if you've not spoken to them as they will be able to give you some support. Alternatively give Cruse a call and they will be able to arrange for you to talk to someone so that you can have some support in working through your thoughts and feelings. 

    Grief can feel like a very lonely place to be at times but know that you're welcome to offload here on the forum at any point if it helps. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

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