Hi all. My mum was unwell from February 2020. She had a pain in her breast. It persisted and I called the doctor who referred her on for a mammogram.  She previously had breast cancer and was in remission in 2012. I just knew her cancer was back as did she. Things got worse and pain began to spread. I knew she was in trouble but she also had COPD. She was sent to hospital via ambulance and due to covid was told it was a chest infection and gave antibiotics. Throughout  out 2020 she must of had 9 courses. She was discharged and clearly unwell. A week passed and she was back in again. We mentioned the possible cancer and the pain but again due to covid she was discharged. I called her doctor and said this is the cancer the pain she is in is horrendous. She got red flagged. Eventually on the 15th May she got that mammogram. She couldn't even walk into the hospital. The consultant said she wasn't fit for her mammogram and was sent I covid A&e. She got an mri this time and unfortunately it was everywhere it had mastasized to her bones and all of her organs. She died 4 weeks later and I watched her die a horrible painful death. She was terrified. Unfortunately my father died 9 years ago and I'm not close with my brother. He let her down on her dying day. He never bothered to visit her. She died thinking he didn't care. 
I have 4 kids and three of them are under 3. My partner was amazing and the day after her funeral he seemed to be his grumpy self. I understand he has been caring for the kids alone while I'd been with my mum and the same with sorting her affairs after her passing. But I feel so unsupported and it's making things so much more difficult for me. He has still got both his parent and he doesn't seem to understand. I'm am hugely stressed and upset by the arguments and lack of support. Any advice would be appreciated .