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Does it get any easier?

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2 months ago my beautiful mum died very suddenly. She was diagnosed with lung cancer and 10 days later she died. We were not allowed to visit her because of covid restrictions until it was to say goodbye, by which time she was out of it. She only went in after a fall and then this? I saw her (through window) the day before she fell and she was fine. How did this happen? I thought time would make it easier but it just seems to get worse each day. I miss her more and more and just want to talk to her. She was my best friend and new grandmother to my daughter, it wasnt her time. This is isnt fair. Please tell me i will feel normal again? I'm just lost and confused. Sorry for the rant I just needed to get it out. 

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    hello 

     

    firstly sorry for your loss, which is made totally worse by the covid restrictions, i feel your pain but at least your mum did not suffer and long and drawn out illness like some cancer patients, i think it took my dad 7 weeks of actively dying !! that was tough to cope with in the end i was wishing he would go and be out of pain .. but to answer your question, no i dont think it does get easier i think we just learn to cope the more time that goes on, i still talk to my dad at his photo mainly i think this helps me, i talk about him to all my family and friends and this helps too, remembering the good times and not thinking about the suffering he endured.. 

     

    talk to your daughter about your mum tell her all the things you two used to do even if she cant talk back yet im sure you mum will be listening and smiling at you recalling the good times, 

    take each day as it comes and do not beat yaself up about having sad days or sad hours or minutes they will pass, your always going to love and miss your mum you will just get better at it

     

    Lisa x 

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    hello 

     

    firstly sorry for your loss, which is made totally worse by the covid restrictions, i feel your pain but at least your mum did not suffer and long and drawn out illness like some cancer patients, i think it took my dad 7 weeks of actively dying !! that was tough to cope with in the end i was wishing he would go and be out of pain .. but to answer your question, no i dont think it does get easier i think we just learn to cope the more time that goes on, i still talk to my dad at his photo mainly i think this helps me, i talk about him to all my family and friends and this helps too, remembering the good times and not thinking about the suffering he endured.. 

     

    talk to your daughter about your mum tell her all the things you two used to do even if she cant talk back yet im sure you mum will be listening and smiling at you recalling the good times, 

    take each day as it comes and do not beat yaself up about having sad days or sad hours or minutes they will pass, your always going to love and miss your mum you will just get better at it

     

    Lisa x 

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